Girlygirl1977 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Should we expect that relationship with the best emotional bond should also have the best sexual bond? Of course some of us have had really animalistic sex with someone who we had a less emotional bond with. I am back with an ex I originally dated when I was 23 for 2.5 years. We broke up due to distance and age. We were both of each others longest relationships - and first loves. It is new now but the emotional bond is very strong - we have so much behind us already and we are planning trips months in advance (e.g. going somewhere after his friend's wedding in Europe) and also for my birthday (he brought it up etc.). We are both in better places in our lives. Sex is still new though and so we are still feeling our way as far as that goes. He actually moved a couple of weeks ago to Philly (1.5 hrs away); I'm in NY but we can see each other every weekend. I'm traveling to Europe for work this week and he's coming with me and we will spend the weekend in Paris. We have only had sex a handful of times though and it isn't yet what I would say the best sex (still finding our way). Does it usually work out that the strongest emotional bond leads to the best sex too?
quankanne Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I think it does ... pure animalistic sex is incredible, but when you've got that emotional connectedness, even plain jane sex becomes sublime. I think it's because there's a whole element of trust and *knowing* involved. at least this is what I've found after 17 years of marriage and a rollercoaster sex life!
You'reasian Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Does it usually work out that the strongest emotional bond leads to the best sex too? When a relationship is transitioning from one of lust to one of a possible emotional connection is when the sex is the most powerful IMO. Why? You're still able to have that strong, animalistic sex with the beginning of an emotional bond. When you've transitioned into that emotional bond, the overall quality of your sex tends to be better than when the two of you first started hooking up (lots of quantity + pure animalistic sex).
carhill Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Does it usually work out that the strongest emotional bond leads to the best sex too?Depends. What do you want from intimacy and sex? That's as individual as each of this. The vastness of perspective shared here on LS underscores this. Do I personally think a strong emotional bond leads to satisfying and long-lasting sexual expression? Sure. But that's because I believe in a tight relationship between the two. Everyone is different. My wife preferred sex without a strong emotional connection because such connections were problematical for her. Oops. There went the stereotype. That doesn't mean she was or is wrong, just as those LS'ers who compartmentalize sex and emotion aren't wrong. We're all different. Celebrate our differences but preferably have relationships with compatible partners
Trialbyfire Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 IMO, chemistry means an emotional, intellectual and physical connection. When chemistry is raging, it's the best sex...bar none!
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