xpaperxcutx Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I'm at an age where I'm more mature and open to the world but I'm suddenly dumbstruck about the type of guys I should be interested in. Everyone suggests that college boys should be my type. Although I may agree, I'm just hesitant to start anything serious with someone whose primary focuses are parties and hookups. I have no problem having fun, but to put myself in a position to be with someone who I think is childish is absolutely horrific. Then there's the option of dating someone older. In my mind I am thinking, okay a 25 year- old wouldn't be so bad. But then when I expose myself to dating older guys, I realize they're not all that mature either. We may have alot of things in common, but then they will always bring up sex, sex and more sex. It seems like they're always sex deprived. Finally there's the really, really, old guys, who could be my father, and whom I don't even want to date. But somehow they're attracted to me. I'm disgusted because I will never put myself in a situation to date someone who has either an asian fetish or prowling for young girls. My dilemma? I just rather be alone. I don't know what's wrong with me. There's plenty of guys and men who will want to go out with me, but I'm apprehensive to dating anyone of them. Of course, I think it's all in my head. Have any of you ever feel like you don't know the type of men or women you would want to date? Have any of you ever felt this?
BobSacamento Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Well that's what I see dating as - weeding out the weirdos and psychos.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 Well that's what I see dating as - weeding out the weirdos and psychos. But Bob, it can get so draining. I can go on a date, and then don't even feel like making the effort to try another date. Either they bored me to death or I just wasn't attracted to them.
monkey00 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 The more dating experience you attain, the more you'll know what you want out of a guy. Though personally for me age is always a #, it does not define a person or their maturity whatsoever.
BobSacamento Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 But Bob, it can get so draining. I can go on a date, and then don't even feel like making the effort to try another date. Either they bored me to death or I just wasn't attracted to them. Well you shouldn't make the effort for a second date if they bore you or repulse you. Move on. I don't see how one date can be draining, unless all they do is talk about themselves. Then the fake sick card might need to come out.
BobSacamento Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 The more dating experience you attain, the more you'll know what you want out of a guy. Though personally for me age is always a #, it does not define a person or their maturity whatsoever. My only thing with this is when your a student and your dating someone who has been out of school for a while. And they have had a job for a while and they have money. Things can get complicated I think in that department. It can turn into borderline prostitution.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 The more dating experience you attain, the more you'll know what you want out of a guy. Though personally for me age is always a #, it does not define a person or their maturity whatsoever. You're right, age doesn't define a person's maturity. But then I don't see anyone my age acting grown up either. I should have had myself clearer. I do have a higher attraction towards older men than most guys my age. But I find it unsettling because I could be putting myself in a position to be used by men on the prowl. I suppose in a way I have a father complex. I was raised by my grandparents, and never knew my father. The only men in my mother's life had been abusive, and in a way I did went through a traumatic childhood. I'm not prone to men because I can love and hate them at the same time. But then I'm still attracted to men who I see as the type that can take care of. I should have just renamed this thread, " why do I have a father complex"
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 My only thing with this is when your a student and your dating someone who has been out of school for a while. And they have had a job for a while and they have money. Things can get complicated I think in that department. It can turn into borderline prostitution. Borderline prostitution? What is that?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 Well you shouldn't make the effort for a second date if they bore you or repulse you. Move on. I don't see how one date can be draining, unless all they do is talk about themselves. Then the fake sick card might need to come out. Yeah I used the fake sick card alot. In fact half of the guys I've dated had suffered those words. They weren't boring in that they don't have a conversation, neither did they talk about themselves all that much. It's just if they become too passionate about a subject, I find it a bit overwhelming. It's like "we only just met, but then you're talking about things I really just want to skip over".
Enema Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 You seem to be focusing on only the "wrong" guys in each bracket then tarring the whole range as unappealing. - What about the mature college guy that wants a serious relationship? - What about the 25 year old who's not interested in sex? (that's a good thing?!) - Don't date the old guys. Yes, they want young pussy, but they're upfront and clear about it. If you're not into the common exchange of youth for wealth, move on.
Recommended Posts