Labtec Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Hello loveshack, this is my first post here and i must say that i love the warm community already just from reading what others have posted. I know i will find some help. So my problem is this. I have known this girl since decemeber and ever since we met we have really been hitting it off. She constantly stares at me and she always wants to be around me. She touches me when she talks and i hear her whispering all the time about me. Even this last weekend i heard her with another girl (the other girl was being loud, i was not evesdropping) say that they should give me a cute nick name. We have always sort of hung out, but we met at a martial arts school. I have been teaching there for a while (i am only 18 though) and she joined in december (she is 16). The only real time that i get to spend with her is at class, and we always chill for a bit before and after class just talking about anything. Well now the tournament season has started up and we have been traveling around together. This last weekend was the final step though. As we got done with the tournament we went and ate supper as a group. This was nothing un usual, except for she started to text me at the table (even though she was about 3 feet away) and acted as if she didnt want anyone else to know who she was texting. So i was having a convo with her by talking, and a more intimate convo with her on the text. This was nothing though. But then we went to the movies and i heard her say a bunch of things about me. The last thing that really got to me was she started to txt me in the movie theater again (and this time she sat right by me). She was talking about how she would help me find a girl, and i replied that i already knew who i wanted (her, of course, but i didnt say that). She then sent a message back but i was busy at the moment and i had forgot that she had done so. Then about 5 minutes later she stares at me and holds her phone up and winks, then laughs. I got the point and i opened up the phone and she said "who?" and i said i would tell her later (out of fear that i wasnt ready to tell her yet.) The rest of the night we spent having fun and just talking. Then today she texted me very early when we were coming home from the tournment and we talked for a good 2 hours. Then her phone died, and the texting ceased. When she got home though she texted me a one word answer the question i had sent 5 or so hours ago. So i brang up a different topic, in hopes of getting her to text again, and then yet again another one word answer. I replied back, and she sent nothing. Of course i thought something was wrong, so i tried to think of something i could say that could get the ball rolling again. I waited an hour and said "So.. how was the car ride back here?" She replied saying "It was great lol, now i am riding in my ranger". So i did get her to say the lustroius "lol" and i felt good again. She seemed to be struggling to text me and drive the ranger at the same time though, so i told her to text me later if she wanted to. So everything is ok, right? Well not really. I really want to tell this girl my feelings. I am just so unsure that she would accept them that i am terrified to do so. I dont want to make things in class awkward, but i dont want to miss out on an oportunity either. When she texts me tonight, what should i say? Should i go through with it? If i should, can anyone give me some pointers? I have been a nervous wrreck ever since i got it through my head that i was going to tell her.. i just need some help now. So, can anyone help me out?
bede86 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 if you tell her how u feel she'll freak, even if there is an interest in you...we are different from women, just say hey i had allot of fun hangin with u during the tournament 'i'd like to go out sometime this week'? and be flirty when ur out if she becomes offstandish back off, dont invest too much of ur heart into it...As a male who 'wears his heart on his sleave' i learnt over the past few years that there isnt much u can do to make someone like u except being urself and being occasionally cocky and flirty. Other than that its either gonna happen or not. I cant stress enough the 'I'd like to go out sometime this week' thing, dont ask if she wants to tell her u want to she either wont or will atleast this way u come off like ur in control. people might think im being a little generic hetero guy who thinks he has it pegged, when in reality ive been the very quite 'can we walk home together' (lol) guy before and in many ways still can be.
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