griffinchicken53 Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 i've heard this terminology but wanted some opinions. what would determine if a girl is high maintenance or low maintenance? what are the pros and cons of dating high/low maintenance girls? girls do you consider yourself high/low maintenance? i don't mean this in any insulting way, just not sure what the difference is...going by the thread hot vs. cute girls, i got a thing for a high maintenance cute girl. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Blows your schedule, forgets, always late, another crisis, overwhelmed, frazzled, too tired for sex. Wait, that describes me Seriously, as a man, if I'm constantly faced with putting aside my needs and desires (whether I actually do or not) to deal with hers, she's high maintenance. A low maintenance gal handles her own shyte and has time to spare to make me feel loved and valued. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 high maintenance girls tend to be good looking. if she ever says "i'm not high maintenance" then she's high maintenance... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Or, when they get to be my age, *once were* good looking and have forgotten to look in the mirror of truth lately Seriously, I've had a few of the high maintenance types in the past and they ran the gamut in the looks department. I've also had some really attractive female friends who were completely low maintenance. Data supports no conclusions as of yet... Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 19, 2009 Author Share Posted April 19, 2009 maybe i just fall for the ones who will reject me the hardest...then give me reassurance i should never try again. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Blows your schedule, forgets, always late, another crisis, overwhelmed, frazzled, too tired for sex. Wait, that describes me Seriously, as a man, if I'm constantly faced with putting aside my needs and desires (whether I actually do or not) to deal with hers, she's high maintenance. A low maintenance gal handles her own shyte and has time to spare to make me feel loved and valued.No, that's a martyr! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 falls on sword.... Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 When I think of this, I think of personalities, such that guys can be just as high maintenance as girls. Some people actually seem to thrive on high maintenance relationships (generally it works better if both people are fairly high m.), similarly to how some people thrive on stressful and fast paced work scenarios. But then most people think of high maintenance as someone who wants more than their fair share, which is an entirely different scenario from the one I have in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Girlygirl1977 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 When I think of this, I think of personalities, such that guys can be just as high maintenance as girls. Some people actually seem to thrive on high maintenance relationships (generally it works better if both people are fairly high m.), similarly to how some people thrive on stressful and fast paced work scenarios. But then most people think of high maintenance as someone who wants more than their fair share, which is an entirely different scenario from the one I have in mind. What scenario did you have in mind? Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 i'm sorry...didn't mean to imply this was aimed at women only. not sure how i would base myself. outward appearance i'm probably low maintenance. but emotional might be high maintenance. not that i intend to be, always worry what people think of me, do they like me, if they aren't talking to me are they going to forget me? etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 griffinchicken, can you define high and low maintenance, for the purposes of this thread? Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 What scenario did you have in mind? Well my parents have a high maintenance marriage but they couldn't be happier. It's only high maintenance because they're both highly strung vs. laid back. Most of the time when people think about high maintenance they imagine selfish people who don't meet the other person's needs yet need to be called 10 times a day, etc. Or they imagine a girl who gets her nails done all the time. Something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 maybe that they have unreal expectations of people. i'm not really sure. i'm at a loss on this. i was emaling this girl i know for advice on a girl i'm interested in, turns out they know each other. my friend advised me that girl i'm interested in is high maintenance....wouldn't make me happy, look for a low maintenance girl. so i don't know how to look for a low maintenance girl or what it means, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Decide for yourself if the girl is compatible for you. Friends have their own agendas.... How do you know what you like unless you try on a bunch of different personality styles? Trust me, you will never get it perfect the first time, or even the tenth, or ever Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Yes, I agree that you should test out the waters and see if she's your version of "high maintenance". I have a close, long-time friend who's majorly high-maintenance. When we were both in school, she used to get all her b/fs who didn't go to our school, drive her to school every morning. If she wanted to go shopping after school, they would have to drive her. Now that she's older and married, her husband takes care of everything for her. For example: 1. She won't drink her tea without Creamo or evaporated milk. The last time we were together, she made him go to the store to get some, since my other friend only had half-and-half cream. 2. If we have plans to go out for dinner, the conversation goes like this. Her - Where do you want to go for dinner? Me - I don't care. As long as it's not x or y, it doesn't matter to me. Her - No, you pick. Me - Okay, how about xyz restaurant? Her - No, I don't feel like that. Me - Okay, how about abc restaurant? Her - No, I just had that last night. Me - Okay, how about bcd restaurant? Her - No, I don't feel like it. Me - *exasperated sigh* Look, I picked three places and you've shot them all down. You decide! Her - Well, I was thinking about cde restaurant. Me - Why didn't you say so in the first place, instead of making me pick, then shooting down all my choices? Her - *shrugs* Me - *mentally envisioning strangulation of long-time friend* Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 i'm not around alot of women. i don't want to limit my scope to just one, but if i date a high maintenance girl and am miserable, then i'm more appreciative of the low maintenance girl. or something like that. i'm sure i ask one friend they say don't do it, another friend might say go for it, so can't base my actions on just one person's opinion.... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Ok, I was once a high maintenance girl. Not anymore. But to answer your question: High Maintenance: Super needy, never happy, picks everything you say apart, argumentative, superficial, selfish, self-centered, always has to be right, gives you the silent treatment if not given her way. Always has to talk about "us." Low Maintenance: Laid back, easy to please, doesn't feel the need to win every argument, is independent, doesn't need constant attention, happy to give without receiving sometimes, down to earth, doesn't take themselves too seriously. Also, to add...above average in looks people are usually high maintenance...especially when under 35. Some in that category stay high maintenance for the rest of their lives and others wake up eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 well she's always dated the "hot" guys, not sure how this factors in. if it does. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 well she's always dated the "hot" guys, not sure how this factors in. if it does. The "hot" guys are mostly jerks so if you're a nice guy, she'll most likely walk all over you if she's under 35. That's my little theory anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Eh, most of the prettiest girls I know don't date good looking guys, or at least not exclusively those. Don't fall prey to the nice guy-bad guy thinking! If you're a 7 you're above average which means you are cute, and cute is hot to any girl if there is chemistry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author griffinchicken53 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 i don't know if i would consider myself a 7...at least not at the moment, i need to drop a few pounds. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Oops, I'm sorry. I thought you were the other poster (the one who talked about dating a 12/10 girl). My apologies. My advice still stands though. Most of the girls I know either don't care about looks or are really quite forgiving if they have things in common with the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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