MyMystery Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I'm not into this 21 yr marriage of mine, my situation sucks for the simple reason that I don't want to be here anymore, I have told him over a dzen times in the past 15 yrs that I wanted a divorce! His answer was "do what you want but don't walk out on me" well I should of 12 yrs ago walk. Instead I have stayed but would take job transfers, I'm fed up and very unhappy. Why can I not just leave and end this ridiculous marriage, we don't even share a bed, its been over 8 yrs... why do I feel I can't hurt him so ? I am a prisoner and very sad... Please, I need help to understand and strength to move on...
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 You are a prisoner of your own thinking. You are staying because something is compelling you to stay, and it is more tempting and attractive than whatever is urging you to go. Find out what it is, and ask whether it is worth it.
sucre8095 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 MyMystery. Why don't you love your husband anymore? Are there other reasons why? Did he cheat on you, beat you? Just trying to get in your head why you don't love him. I know as a man we may treat our wifes bad and take them for granted, but as a man, I would like to know so I wouldn't lose you. It does sound like you two are way over, but I would hate to see that. I believe in marriage vows and if two people are united and focused, a marriage could work. Have you tried marriage counseling? I also think you haven't left yet, because you haven't figure out how to leave. Once a woman finds self confidence, and is able to support herself, then no man can stop her. If you ever get to this point, you will find your answer.
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