ChicChick122 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Hey, I recently starting dating a player. I know I'm playing with fire,but it's the first time I've ever done such a thing so I'm just going to enjoy it. He traveled 40mins on the train to visit me on our first date, after I refused to meet him where he lives. We did the cliche dinner and a movie, which he hated, but agreed to go because I wanted to. Like a true player, he tried to touch/feel me in the movie theatre which I expected. I told him I'm not that kind of girl and am not that easy. He smiled and said I like that. After that he still attempted to touch me until I finally got his fingers and pushed them back really hard...instead of saying "ouch," he replied "wow youre rough;I like that." I was speechless-no one has ever told me that. At that moment I knew this was going to be an interesting date. Throughout the date he explained that he's used to easy girls and that if he wasnt truly interested in me he would have been on the train back to his house after the movies-another thing I liked;his honesty. He also told me that when he likes someone, he tends to ignore them. I asked if he would do this to me, and he said "maybe I dont know." That sorta confused me. When we departed after dinner, he kissed me bye and asked if I wanted to hang out the next day. I declined the offer, but was pleased that he even asked. So after our first encounter he continued to text me basically every day-this is going on 3 weeks now. I saw him yesterday and I took the train to visit him. He took me out to lunch and we walked around. THIS IS WERE I NEED HELP!!!!! First he told me he wants me to visit him in Miami over the summer, next we went to a cafe where he knew the store owner on a first name basis, and introduced me as his girlfriend. I did my nervous laugh and looked at him in shock-I still dont know what that means, and how serious I should take it. Most importantly, his friends called him and wanted to meet up. When I asked him why he said "because they want to see how you look." Once again, I was nervous just because I've never been put in such a situation. After meeting his friends he told me "eventually youre going to meet them all", and insisted that next week I go over his best friends house and said I can bring my friends too if I feel uncomfortable. After our second date, he asked me to grab lunch with him again the following day, which I declined since I already had plans. Another thing that threw me off, is that a week prior, he added one of my close friends on Facebook and texted me saying that she is really cute. I didnt explode and simply replied "oh really?I'm not surprised shes a pretty girl." Yesterday after he mentioned how I should bring my friends to his best friends house, I mentioned how Ill make sure to bring my friend he added on FaceBook and how it'll be a perfect time to for him to mack on her. He responded and said that if he wanted to talk to her he would have done it already-being upfront once again;which I like. He continued and told me he isnt that kind of guy and wouldnt do that to me. I'm sure you're probably sick of reading these longs paragraphs, so my question to you is: DOES HE LIKE ME? and if so, how much? Everyone tells me he does,and I agree but I'm not convinced. I believe that he likes me along with 3425643 girls too. He's even told me he doesnt want a gf and I've told him I dont want a bf but I still dont know where we stand. I'm obviously falling for him (I'm writting this) which is different from my original plan of just having fun and dating a player. THANK-YOU FOR READING AND ANY ADVICE WOULD BE REALLY NICE!!! :D:D
cat-power Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 does he like you? sure ! but he'll treat you like the queen for a little while and leave you shattered (though still wanting to remain friends) He'll shower you with attention and gifts, do crazy things for you, really make you feel special. But if you wanna play, be sure to keep your pants on for a good 3-4 months until his true colors show. And he probably will go for that girl on facebook. About 2yrs ago i was in the same situation (and many times in my youth when i actually did fall for players) a guy at work. At the end of the project everyone thought we were a couple- but I never fell for him. I was in a long distance thing with another guy at the time (which helped keep my pants up ) and when that guy dissapeared on me around Xmas I invited mr. player to my house....he left after one month and by that time we still hadn't slept together. We did talk about those innitial stages though and admitted that at first he only wanted fun. The innitial reason he stuck around was: I didn't let him have his fun. We're still friends now, on occasion he will visit and stay a week or two, and we'll have fun, cuddle up on the couch, but always with clothes on ! neither of us wanna go there anymore.
oasis Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 It appears as if he just sees you as a challenge. The reason that he may want you to meet all of his friends, its because he cannot believe that you have not fallen victim to his charms. He may have discussed you to death to his friends and now they all want to see "what you look like". If you have sex with him, you might see a totally different side and you will take your place along with the hundreds of women that he messes around with. I have a bad feeling that he is just looking to conquer. And will flee when he achieves his goal. As you labelled him in your post, "a player". This is what players do.
carhill Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Is this the classic "if I love him enough can I make him change his player ways"? Well, sure sounds like it. The progression shows that being sexually aggressive with a sense of humor about it and not letting rejection affect one engages a woman's emotions and gets her interested. The method does work. Is there any substance behind the method? Unknown. The OP was bereft of any such indications as well as apparently any requirement for such. Interesting and fun way to pass time, I guess
Woggle Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 It sounds like he's playing the game very well with you. Men like this are pros at breaking a woman down.
lino Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 It sounds like he's playing the game very well with you. Men like this are pros at breaking a woman down. Yep. If he actualy is player that is.
Awesome84 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I have a bad feeling that he is just looking to conquer. And will flee when he achieves his goal. BINGO!!! He definently is trying to see how much he has to do to finally 'BED' you. Trust me... I have plenty of guy friends who are players and they sit around and talk about this stuff. If he's a player... Yea... he will travel far for the P.ssy. One of my guy friends once told me that he drove miles and miles to a different city because he wanted some P.ssy and was pretty sure he was gonna get it. The fact that you are hard to get... Means nothing... Yea.. he probably likes you more because you are hard to get... But once a player... always a player until a guy figures out (on his own) that he doesn't want to play the game anymore. This is usually because of his own reflections about himself and has nothing to do with a girl. Guys don't change their ways for a girl. He may initially change because he likes you (for now) and likes that you are hard to get... But trust me... once he gets it... I'm almost 100% sure he'll bail.
Yamaha Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Like a true player, he tried to touch/feel me in the movie theatre which I expected. I told him I'm not that kind of girl and am not that easy. He smiled and said I like that. After that he still attempted to touch me until I finally got his fingers and pushed them back really hard...instead of saying "ouch," he replied "wow youre rough;I like that." I was speechless-no one has ever told me that. At that moment I knew this was going to be an interesting date. Interesting. You tell him to stop and when he doesn't you like him all the more. He is crude and you enjoy his "honesty". He is just enjoying the banner and he knows women well enough to see the sign he will get you soon. You think he is falling for you and that is the MO of a true player. Just keep telling yourself you can change him and when you become attached ( after having sex ) then he will probably drive you crazy because he is unemotionally invested.
Lucky_One Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Interesting. You tell him to stop and when he doesn't you like him all the more. He is crude and you enjoy his "honesty". He is just enjoying the banner and he knows women well enough to see the sign he will get you soon. You think he is falling for you and that is the MO of a true player. Just keep telling yourself you can change him and when you become attached ( after having sex ) then he will probably drive you crazy because he is unemotionally invested. Yep. He's a player. What exactly is he doing that makes you think he is NOT playing?
MN randomguy Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 You ask, Did I make a player fall for me? **** NO!!!!! listen to your question. That's like asking, "did I make water dry?" Players don't fall for anyone by definition. If you want to play with him you should give it up already. That's how the game is played. Or, you can wait until he beds your beautiful friend. Then, you'll be jealous and put out to compete. Sounds like he's really on top of his game. If you want to be played by a player to get "Street Cred" now is your opportunity.
Taramere Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Hey, I recently starting dating a player. I know I'm playing with fire,but it's the first time I've ever done such a thing so I'm just going to enjoy it. He traveled 40mins on the train to visit me on our first date, after I refused to meet him where he lives. We did the cliche dinner and a movie, which he hated, but agreed to go because I wanted to. Like a true player, he tried to touch/feel me in the movie theatre which I expected. I told him I'm not that kind of girl and am not that easy. It really sounds as though you've been reading The Rules, or something like that....and want to engage in a spot of mutual game playing. That's fine, but if it doesn't go well for you bear in mind that you played of your own accord.
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