hey guys I saw my ex who dumped me yesterday,should I believe her anger at me?

[gavinus]

Bascially me and me ex went out for 3 years. She had anger issues which included taking her anger out on me physically emotionaly, and verbally. She ended the relationship becuase when she got angry I withdrew from her because I was unhappy and afraid. After seeing her she said the reason she took her anger out on me was because I withdrew from her and made her angry, and she also said I am too sensitive for my own good and if I was not so sensitive it would not be a problem. I need advice! Is she right?? I need to sort this out before it goes any further between us, did I deserve her anger?thanks heaps

[Excellent]

Sounds like a very selfish statement from her part. She is pushing her guilt over to you. She clearly has issues she needs to sort out, not you. Your reaction is very natural, especially when there are people you love involved. Of course the automatic reaction would be to withdraw and evade when people are like that, just because we think it would only make things worse if we bring it up.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Bascially me and me ex went out for 3 years. She had anger issues which included taking her anger out on me physically emotionaly, and verbally. She ended the relationship becuase when she got angry I withdrew from her because I was unhappy and afraid. After seeing her she said the reason she took her anger out on me was because I withdrew from her and made her angry, and she also said I am too sensitive for my own good and if I was not so sensitive it would not be a problem. I need advice! Is she right?? I need to sort this out before it goes any further between us, did I deserve her anger?thanks heaps

gavinus just wondering how old are you guys? you have asked basically the same question over and over again and you keep getting the same answers no you don't deserve it no one dose shes a dangerous flake stay away from her.

[Ronni_W]

did I deserve her anger?

No, of course you did not deserve her anger! NOBODY deserves anybody else's anger (or any other hostile emotion.)

 

She is suffering from serious delusions if she is of the opinion that people who refuse to be her emotional and physical punching bag are "too sensitive" (or have anything else "wrong" with them.)

 

Best you can do for her is suggest that she get counseling to help deal with her anger issues, and take responsibility for ALL her thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

 

Best you can do for yourself is...Run away, run away!!!

[Woggle]

You should believe that you dodged a bullet.

[mark982]

no one deserves their partners anger. you got lucky(or smart) and got out of this toxic relationship.

[gavinus]

thanks for your support guys I have been looking at various websites for abuse. The reason I posted here and asked if I am responsible for her anger is because I now realize I have been blaming myself for her anger, that is not right, I will do the right thing and stay away, cheers

 

(In domestic abuse victims are frequently in denial about the abuse and are often manipulated into thinking that they are to blame for it.)

[kizik]

Gavinus,

 

WTF? Why did you talk to her? When are you gonna learn that she has NOTHING to offer you?

 

I don't want to sound condescending, but you have a long way to go to realize your own worth. I really suggest some counseling, b/c as you say, you were a victim of verbal abuse (as well as physical?). Counseling will help you get your head on straight to where you can see that the way people have treated you in the past

 

-is not your fault

-is not what you deserved.

 

Oh, and ignore the post right above mine that says to go f*ck some other chick. I HATE that advice and the way it has permeated pop culture. Right, like sticking your dick in some innocent girl who has NOTHING to do with your recovery is going to be the cure-all. *ugh*

[msjules]

Goes any further between the two of you? So things are going somewhere between you two? Do you really think that's happening?

 

You mean like she uses you and sees other men too? Is that what you really want?

 

gavinus, IT IS OVER. You are still accepting her abuse. She is doling out breadcrumbs, poisonous breadcrumbs at that, and you are eating them up like you haven't eaten in a month.

 

I agree with the poster above. You need counseling to ascertain why you think accepting this sort of treatment is okay. You ask the same question over and over again, but aren't ready to hear the same answer over and over and over again. You act like you are, and sometimes I think that you are finally getting it, but you are not getting it at all.

 

Seriously, my friend, look into seeing a professional. You are not crazy. You deserve better than this and you need to determine why you can't seem to move on from this toxic woman.

[Chrome Barracuda]

I seen this post and the other posts.

 

Dude what the F are you smoking? Leave this woman ALONE!!!