hrtofthemttr Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I was with my ex bf for 3 years. We had so much fun together and he treated me really well but we were long distance as well. I broke up with him a year ago because I felt that a lot of times we weren't on the same page. He's more of an in the moment type of guy and has lack of amibition. I am the type of girl we wants to get far in life and likes to get things done. This caused a lot of arguments for us but our love for each other was genuine. I am with someone else now, who is everything I wished my ex was. I am so happy with the new guy. However, I still can't get over my ex. I still think about him everyday and I fight the urge to contact him everyday. Why is this?? I just want to be truly happy!!
CapitalChick Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 This is a typical situation where timing is to blame and lack of experience/understanding. Yes Im sure the reasons you broke it off with him at the time were truly genuine and yes you are very different people theoretically. Although logic would dictate that you 2 therefore should be apart or should find people more compatible to yourselves, you break up. Well this is the part I think experience teaches. You loved him, and sometimes time apart as well as other dating experiences can show you that although in theory it made sense for u to break it off with him, in reality you had a connection with him. Falling in love and establishing a deep bond are things that you cant instigate nor plan for. They just happen! If you want to contact him, YOU SHOULD. Lord knows he never will given that you broke if it off with him and likely hurt him in the process!! Who knows he may be the "one" OR you'll realise the things you miss about him now are the very things he no longer is. A year is a long time, he himself may be different now. Have you seen "the notebook" - its a great movie, in theory they didnt belong together and timing and general other crappy factors kept them apart but at the end of the day it was the deep connection that even 8 years couldnt destroy. Okay so Im wavering off point here slightly (!!) Just my thoughts!
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