silverfish Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Man, I would really love to tell you about what my boyfriend went through before he met me, but I kind of feel it would be wrong of me to go into details as I respect his privacy. It's not far off what you're going through though. We met through a random website due to something funny he wrote, it progressed to MSN, then a meet up. There was no pressure at any point on us to see it as anything other than meeting up for a fun day. We just fell in love. I couldn't care less about his past. When you find the right person she won't care about your history, and you don't need to explain yourself or justify your existence to anyone. Your intelligence and humour will get you a long way.
ruggy Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I would definitely agree against putting yourself down like that. I think D-Lish said once you need to fake it until you make it. It kinda makes sense. If a woman asks you so how long was your longest relationship, don't say I never had one, say a year or two. Then ask them theirs. You will have to ben the truth a little, everyone does. In terms of the muscles, I've been working out since I was in my early teens. I was not able to do much then, but that was 20 + years ago. Over the years I have been able to build up mass and strength. You can do this at any age. A good way to start is to have a protein shake daily with some creatine. Working out on the the bench helps a bit too. If you want to change your body, it can happen. That IS in your control. There is no reason why you should give a f*ck what someone thinks of you before even striking up a convo. If you are too afraid to ask, that is a weakness what they would frown upon. Good news though, this can be fixed. Just keep on meeting new women and slowly progress your steps. A little more each time. Do you have a hobby? Go to meetup.com and look up like minded people for that group. This will help you with your social interaction. Materialistic girls who would only give a man the who wants you because you have money, mucho dating experience, drives a hot car, etc. You want a woman who wants YOU FOR YOU. Its hard, but I am told they are out there. Most give up, but you need to switch up your intro skills. Now on online dating, I have NEVER been so discouraged in my life. Only twice in my WHOLE like had I ever walked up to a woman and asked her out and was denied. One online dating, I sent well over 300 e-mails. Over the last few weeks, more had replied to the first one, and then flaked off. I have never seen so many flaky people in my life. Didn't go for the overly hot girls, just ones I felt were average looks. Slammed by all. As I am told before, it is what it is and what you make out of it.
Phateless Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 For building muscle mass, use the 5x5 program. 5 sets of 5 reps each. You should be using enough weight that you have trouble on the 5th rep. Focus on compound muscles, such as bench press, dips, rows, shoulder press, etc. 5x5 is a GREAT way to build muscle mass quickly. Combine the 5x5 plan with intensive cardio, such as running 3 miles every day, and you'll be in excellent shape in 6 months.
Phateless Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 39388 - I've had great luck meeting women at concerts. Lots of fun!
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