DunnoWhat Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 What do you think girls? I'm asking because my GF adores alot of male popstars and I don't think it's right to be honest. Its starting to bug me now. Should I chill out a bit? Am I correct to think it's not right? Should I give her a taste of her own medicine and pretend to be crazy over a female popstar for a while? Any thoughts?
Jaytb Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 What do you think girls? I'm asking because my GF adores alot of male popstars and I don't think it's right to be honest. Its starting to bug me now. Should I chill out a bit? Am I correct to think it's not right? Should I give her a taste of her own medicine and pretend to be crazy over a female popstar for a while? Any thoughts? What popstars? how old are you? How long have you been dating?
Author DunnoWhat Posted April 19, 2009 Author Posted April 19, 2009 What popstars? how old are you? How long have you been dating? Boyband music mainly. Shes 21 I'm 27. She told me she loves me and I believe she does but this is really bugging me.
Jaytb Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Shes 21 Well, there's your problem. What exactly do you mean by idolize anyway? obsessed? writing love letters to them?
lazyhappylucky Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 What do you think girls? I'm asking because my GF adores alot of male popstars and I don't think it's right to be honest. Its starting to bug me now. Should I chill out a bit? Am I correct to think it's not right? Should I give her a taste of her own medicine and pretend to be crazy over a female popstar for a while? Any thoughts? it's only natural for them to be attracted to other guys of which the probably loved before you were dating, like a guy may be attracted to female celebrities. My ex used to make fun of me(and still does) for loving Tom Kaulitz, it's just a thing.
Citizen Erased Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Find someone with taste. Who likes boybands anymore? As in like Jonas Brothers or say Fall Out Boy? (both of which are )
carhill Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 How about women (not girls) who are married (not have boyfriends) and who idolize male celebrities and/or performers? LOL, been there, done that, have the quarter million travel miles to prove it. Tip: Get her interested in a local band Seriously, relax. If she's coming home to you and has you on her mind and in her heart, that's all that matters. Trust me.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I think the age difference is a prob for you guys your older at 27 shes still basically a kid at 21 of course shes going to do stuff like that and take it a bit overboard. But I mean unless shes writing them love letters and wallpapering your bedroom with there pics I don't see the huge prob unless thats all she ever talks about? I use to have girlfriends like that back in my early 20s and yea it dose get annoying to any one with half a head on their shoulders. I'm sorry but I think this is just a sign your both at totally different stages in life..
boxing123 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 She is immature.. Plain and simple. Not an age thing, just a maturity thing. many women at 21 are very mature. Some are in their 30's still idolizing. Not something men do.
normal Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 they're crushes. they're people she'll never meet. they're people she'll never really love. they're a fantasy. have you ever had a celebrity crush? have you ever fantasized about other women? ever caught yourself checking someone out that's not your gf? ever watched porn? it's not much different. chill out. giving her a taste of her own medicine probably won't even bother her. i don't see the big deal here? life is too short for jealousy. if you really hate it so much just ask her to stop talking about them.
sotired Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 It's cool to be a wanna be boy band groupie at 12, at 21 not so much. That's very immature...But some people are like that forever...Look at the Rock of Love shows....:lmao:
EYECANDY000 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 What's the big deal she is never going to have a relationship with these people.. I am in my late twenties and I have a huge crush on an singer. I have his pictures on my ceiling, dresser, cologne, autographed picture, and picture of his and I all on a special d table. A little obsessive, yea I know.... , so, just because she is 21 doesn't make her immature. I don't understand why you are getting jealous of people who she doesn't know pesonally... relax........
boxing123 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I see a double standard.. Women are EXTREMELY jealous. Just saying a girl is attractive on tv often times is enough to turn her green with envy. Now imagine being obsessed with some other woman who is famous, and probably looks much different from her. She would have a HUGE complex about that situation.
lino Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I see a double standard.. Women are EXTREMELY jealous. Just saying a girl is attractive on tv often times is enough to turn her green with envy. Now imagine being obsessed with some other woman who is famous, and probably looks much different from her. She would have a HUGE complex about that situation. My thoughts exactly.
EYECANDY000 Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I see a double standard.. Women are EXTREMELY jealous. Just saying a girl is attractive on tv often times is enough to turn her green with envy. Now imagine being obsessed with some other woman who is famous, and probably looks much different from her. She would have a HUGE complex about that situation. I wouldn't.. I could care less if I was dating a guy and he was obsessed with a performer.. Just as in real life I don't care if I'm with my bf and he looks at a female. As long as its not disrespectful to me. I think some people just get to caught up on trying to go by "the dating book" in steatead of just living life.
sotired Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I don't know if it's so much jealousy as it is just weirded out that she is so obsessed with celebrities? That in itself is a turn off for me.
Els Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Exactly HOW obsessed is she? I dunno but here, a reasonable degree of 'idolisation' is considered normal. Lots of my friends are fans of popstars -- they buy their every album and litter their walls with posters... but it doesn't mean anything. Now, if the OP's gf was seriously planning ways to get the celebrity's attention or such, or obsessing so much that it interferes with her work/relationships/studies, that would be a problem...
Author DunnoWhat Posted April 19, 2009 Author Posted April 19, 2009 Exactly HOW obsessed is she? Well we were having dinner the other night with her mother and her mother said she's crazy about a certain singer. She is mature for her age in general. I see a double standard.. Women are EXTREMELY jealous. Just saying a girl is attractive on tv often times is enough to turn her green with envy. Now imagine being obsessed with some other woman who is famous, and probably looks much different from her. She would have a HUGE complex about that situation. She gets jealous easily. If I started talking about some females she wouldn't like it. Would it be appropiate for me to do that? No it wouldn't. Its one thing looking and finding another person attractive it's another thing to be obsessing about them. Who thinks I should give her a taste of her own medicine? Let her see how it feels. I'm not jealous about it but its not appropiate behaviour for somebody in a relationship.
Els Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Her mother just saying 'she's crazy over xxx' doesn't really MEAN anything. How about HER? Any evidence of obsession (not merely fangirl-ism) that YOU see? Does she spend huge chunks of her time and a good portion of her money on that singer's albums? Does she talk about him ALL the time? Would she skip work or ditch an important meeting with you for a concert of his? For all you know, her mother could have been just joking good-naturedly about her daughter liking that guy's music. Just a side question to the OP: Do you like any female stars in particular, and do you watch porn?
Author DunnoWhat Posted April 19, 2009 Author Posted April 19, 2009 Her mother just saying 'she's crazy over xxx' doesn't really MEAN anything. How about HER? Any evidence of obsession (not merely fangirl-ism) that YOU see? Does she spend huge chunks of her time and a good portion of her money on that singer's albums? Does she talk about him ALL the time? Would she skip work or ditch an important meeting with you for a concert of his? For all you know, her mother could have been just joking good-naturedly about her daughter liking that guy's music. Just a side question to the OP: Do you like any female stars in particular, and do you watch porn? She wrote all the birthdays of her fav pop stars down in her diary. No I don't like any female stars and I don't watch porn.
Els Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Hmm now THAT, especially for someone her age... is rather weird.
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