TeacupMovinON Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 This is my first post here but I have been logging on for comfort. My BF and I broke up about 3 and a half months ago. We had been together for close to two years. We met while we were both going through a divorce and I was pregnant with my ex-husbands baby. Our relationship had really great highs and very low points. Not much middle ground. My baby passed away during the relationship and I fell in love with his three children. He was 40 and I am 27. We built our lives around one another. We spent all of our time toghether and with his kids. When we were having one of our low points I ended the relationship-thinking that we would work on getting things right. Two days later he had a new GF. My confusion is because he says things like she looks like "ten miles of bad road" and that he still loves me but she is "safer" than me. They go out of town together and now he has introduced her to his girls! I made plenty of mistakes during the relationship which I feel guilty about but I was also very good to him and his children. I thought he loved me. How could he rebound so quickly? I have not been able to date since him...
Jade 02 Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 This is my first post here but I have been logging on for comfort. My BF and I broke up about 3 and a half months ago. We had been together for close to two years. We met while we were both going through a divorce and I was pregnant with my ex-husbands baby. Our relationship had really great highs and very low points. Not much middle ground. My baby passed away during the relationship and I fell in love with his three children. He was 40 and I am 27. We built our lives around one another. We spent all of our time toghether and with his kids. When we were having one of our low points I ended the relationship-thinking that we would work on getting things right. Two days later he had a new GF. My confusion is because he says things like she looks like "ten miles of bad road" and that he still loves me but she is "safer" than me. They go out of town together and now he has introduced her to his girls! I made plenty of mistakes during the relationship which I feel guilty about but I was also very good to him and his children. I thought he loved me. How could he rebound so quickly? I have not been able to date since him... Sorry to hear about your baby,so sad. I can imagine how you feel,darn the next day he had someone,kind of tells me he probably been seeing her before you left (Jmo). Anyways you sound sweet,I'm sure there is a true ,real man out there for you. Welcome to Loveshack too. I have no real answers for you,just an ear to lend. From what I read around here,time heals all the wounds,most of the time. Good luck sweety
Blah Toolz Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Well, he said the other girl is 'safer'. I guess that means he took the break-up as you tossing him aside, when in fact you thought you would work on things.
fooled once Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 I am sorry about the loss of your baby. I agree, it sounds like he had someone else on his mind at the end of your relationship. And, he is too old for you <hug> Find someone else who is closer to your age; someone you can start your own family with. Start going out with your friends and try as best as you can to not focus on him and his new g/f.
PinkRibbon Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 Maybe he saw it as you getting out quickly and not in the relationship for the long haul. Maybe he wanted to work on the relationship together not apart and you breaking it off with him gave him no choice. Backed him against a wall so to speak with no control over the situation.
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