lenz0223 Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 this girl has been checking me out at the gym for the past month or so. i'm realizing this now though.... she moves to the machines that are very close to mine and i guess she's hoping that i talk to her or something... she's done this three times. i really haven't talked much to her except for a comment or two. i ONLY see her once a week. i wouldn't mind going on a date with her. Do you think she's lost interest by now?? And if she did, can I re-salvage this? one thing to point out which was weird was that when she was walking out of the gym she walked past me and one of my friends while we were talking and she said hello to my friend but his back was completely turned to her... don't know what to think of that.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 You could try talking to her after her workout. Never during, I know women hate to be disturbed when they're doing their own things.
Chicago_Guy Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 this girl has been checking me out at the gym for the past month or so. i'm realizing this now though.... she moves to the machines that are very close to mine and i guess she's hoping that i talk to her or something... she's done this three times. i really haven't talked much to her except for a comment or two. i ONLY see her once a week. i wouldn't mind going on a date with her. Do you think she's lost interest by now?? And if she did, can I re-salvage this? one thing to point out which was weird was that when she was walking out of the gym she walked past me and one of my friends while we were talking and she said hello to my friend but his back was completely turned to her... don't know what to think of that. She probably is still attracted to you, but isn't sure what you think about her. If you are correct that she is checking you out, I think she would like it if you talked to her in between her sets.
stepka Posted April 19, 2009 Posted April 19, 2009 She probably hasn't lost interest so much as she may have decided that you have. We are very vain creatures and if we think you're not interested, we'll give up quickly. Of course it can be salvaged--look her deeply in the eye and say hello when you see her and she'll perk back up. I saw an attractive man at the gym the other day and missed a chance to flirt, though we'd locked eyes before, b/c I was listening to my ipod and almost didn't see him. I think he decided that I'm not interested. Which brings us to the ipod problem--i love them but it makes it hard to connect w/ people when you're in your own little world. And you may have to overdo the eye contact in order to get someone's attn.
Author lenz0223 Posted April 19, 2009 Author Posted April 19, 2009 well how would most girls react in this situation??? if i approached her, introduced myself and talked to her..would it spark her interest again if its lost?
peteyj Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Just go up to her and talk. A few weeks back I went up to some young woman at the gym and we chatted for like 20 minutes. She worked at some bar and told me I should visit her sometime. I wasn't looking for a number or a date, even though she was hot, I just wanted to chat with her. I haven't gone to her bar yet but maybe I will one day, who knows. The reality is just talk. Don't look at it as finding a date or a hookup, just look at it as chatting with somebody. Who cares if it leads somewhere or nowhere. Sometimes you just have to like talking to people regardless of where you are and stop hoping to find a date whenever you talk to somebody.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I think she is still interested, but possibly just too shy to say hello. This happens to me all the time, especially if I am attracted to the person. I get tongue tied even just to look up and smile. I put my head down and walk by quickly. Even at my age!
EYECANDY000 Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 one thing to point out which was weird was that when she was walking out of the gym she walked past me and one of my friends while we were talking and she said hello to my friend but his back was completely turned to her... don't know what to think of that. and your sure she wasnt saying hi to you?
Author lenz0223 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 and your sure she wasnt saying hi to you? no, she doesn't even know my name. i'm almost positive that she knows of me...we live in a small town. we haven't really spoken to each other but i swear she pulled a "drive-by" when she said hi to him. i mean his back was completely turned to them i haven't seen her in three weeks so i'm not sure if this is a good thing or not.
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