bluueye42 Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 My story is complicated..I will try to get to the point. First, my ex has left 6 times. Yea, I know, that's 6 times too many, but he always came back within a week or so. He has alot of issues, in fact, I believe he is bi-polar. He was on meds, but then came off them in January. I was the only one in his life who made him need the meds...his quote, not mine. 5 yrs ago, he left the day after Christmas...said he wanted a divorce. Just like that...two weeks later, he is back, we get back together, everything is great. In April, he tells me we need to "go ahead with the divorce, wipe the slate clean, move ahead". I had signed the papers much earlier, so he went ahead...I was not working at that time, he wanted me to "stay home". No excuses for why I didn't leave that very day of the divorce, except to say, I was an idiot. So, we rock on for 5 years..mind you, he NEVER left! He got his divorce, clean slate, but he carried on as man & wife. Ever so often, pleading with me to get re-married...one month ago, he is pleading again, he has been either layed off or fired from his job. His really great, thought he would retire from job, had been eliminated due to a company buy out...I think that's when he became undone. So, he gets a new job in another state...as I said, he is begging me to get remarried, I knew we had some serious issues, but thought we were back on the same page. He calls me up and tells me he is leaving...the money stops in a week and he has not been in love with me for awhile. I KNOW there has to be someone else..he would NEVER leave his tools and all of his personal items, just to walk away. He literally would choose his things over his own kids. Evidently, I was correct on my assumption, afer trying to contact him, he sends me a pic/text of her...I find phone #'s on the cell phone bill, give them a call..sure enough, it's her AND she has the nerve to call me back, let me know she is his g/f and he is NOT my husband, he IS divorced & I needed to get over it. WHAT the heck??? Oh, yea, he had "told her ALL about me.." Right, chickie, if he had been honest, there is no way in the world she would be calling me... After he is found out, the porn, the drinking, evidently the drugs, he is mad as fire @ me, cuts me off..I mean the phone, the car, everything. Except, he had put in writing the items he was paying for and the things he was leaving...I've had a huge tool sale. Now, his mother sends me emails to ask ?s about his finances...I told her, until he starts acting like a grown up, I have nothing to say. I'm taking care of mine and that's all I'm concerned about....they both think I'm being selfish! ME...again, what the heck? I'm getting better, but I just do not get it. How does a person lie, cheat and destroy people who loved him, without a second glance? How is that done?
Island Girl Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 I am glad you had the tool sale. I can't understand how people do this either. He certainly has this girl snowed - and her fault. I do not feel bad for her especially after that phone call she made to you. She made her bed now she has to lie in it. I just feel so horrible for you! You seem to be handling it well. I am just so sorry you have to go through this in the first place.
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