lazyhappylucky Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Have you ever been with someone you didn't even like or that you like as a friend but can't break up with them. what do you do when you're in a lying relationship. I'm in a relationship, no details but it was long term of like 6 years. We're not married, we're like in our late late teens and early early twenties. basically I tried to break up with him as nice as I could but he said "I can't talk about it right now, we're good where we are, you're messing up my 'game'" I don't even know what 'game' means!
bananacake Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 im in the exact same situation. Im gonna break it off in a week or so... Seriously. Get out. Its just gonna bring both of you down. If he wont listen, make him
carhill Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 OP, you're not married with children. Simply stop contacting him or accepting contact. If you live together, move out. If he bugs you, get a restraining order. Yes, I know the feeling.
Author lazyhappylucky Posted April 18, 2009 Author Posted April 18, 2009 OP, you're not married with children. Simply stop contacting him or accepting contact. If you live together, move out. If he bugs you, get a restraining order. Yes, I know the feeling. we don't have kids, we don't even have sex...anymore that is. And we don't live together but he is a really good friend of mine and my brother's, he's been with us through everything. I've seen him turn gay to bisexual to straight in like 2 years.
carhill Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 IMO, it doesn't matter if he saved you from certain death. You don't owe him your life. It has to be something you freely choose. Life is short.
Lucky_One Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Um, any chance your brother is bi or gay? It isn't very often that a 18 year old boy doesn't want to have sex anymore.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 we don't have kids, we don't even have sex...anymore that is. And we don't live together but he is a really good friend of mine and my brother's, he's been with us through everything. I've seen him turn gay to bisexual to straight in like 2 years. Did you wrote down everything and explain to him that you want out of the relationship? If he kept saying " no" or continue playing the oblivious game, end it on your terms then and there. Tell him you're done, and leave. Let him come to his sense alone. You don't need to wait for him to call the shots. You'd made you your decision, you're going to do what you want.
Author lazyhappylucky Posted April 18, 2009 Author Posted April 18, 2009 Did you wrote down everything and explain to him that you want out of the relationship? If he kept saying " no" or continue playing the oblivious game, end it on your terms then and there. Tell him you're done, and leave. Let him come to his sense alone. You don't need to wait for him to call the shots. You'd made you your decision, you're going to do what you want. he's my brother's best friend and like the only one he really trusts he's even told me thousands of times quote on quote "I will never trust anyone as much as you, not even mom, and the only person I trust other than you is [him]. I don't even love anyone but you guys, everyone else is dead to me, they can all burn in hell for all I care, as long as I have my sister and my bestfriend. I'm okay." it sounds crazy but that's what he said(don't question his ways, he's always been stoic)
spookie Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 You think you screwed him out of gayness and if you leave you're scared he'll topple? Some people are brought into our lives to teach us things. I think you guys have learned what you could from each other, and now, painful as it is, it's time to move on. Sometimes, even when it's time to move on, it's hard and very painful. I think you need to make the first move; rip it off, quickly like a bandaid.
Author lazyhappylucky Posted April 18, 2009 Author Posted April 18, 2009 Um, any chance your brother is bi or gay? It isn't very often that a 18 year old boy doesn't want to have sex anymore. what does that have to do with sex, he's like the god of sex, as it appears. He just doesn't trust people.
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 I don't understand, you will have to clarify it for me please.... people are explaining how to release yourself from this, but you don't seem to want to.... what would you therefore like to do instead? _/l\_
xpaperxcutx Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 he's my brother's best friend and like the only one he really trusts he's even told me thousands of times quote on quote "I will never trust anyone as much as you, not even mom, and the only person I trust other than you is [him]. I don't even love anyone but you guys, everyone else is dead to me, they can all burn in hell for all I care, as long as I have my sister and my bestfriend. I'm okay." it sounds crazy but that's what he said(don't question his ways, he's always been stoic) Wouldn't it be more logical if you tell your brother that the relationship wasn't working out. It shouldn't cause a huge rift between you two if he cared enough to understand.
Author lazyhappylucky Posted April 18, 2009 Author Posted April 18, 2009 Wouldn't it be more logical if you tell your brother that the relationship wasn't working out. It shouldn't cause a huge rift between you two if he cared enough to understand. I have told my brother, and he's okay with it, so he says. However [he] might take it out on my brother, I can't let that happen
Author lazyhappylucky Posted April 18, 2009 Author Posted April 18, 2009 I don't understand, you will have to clarify it for me please.... people are explaining how to release yourself from this, but you don't seem to want to.... what would you therefore like to do instead? _/l\_ I'd like for him to go away on a business trip, for the plane to crash on the way there leaving us in tragedy. 2 years later he shall return and I'll be long gone
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