dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I was hearing this on the radio today, dating experiences that just make you wanna toss your cookies. So I thought about a certain date I had years ago. The guy just recently turned 24. He told me that he didn't lose his virginity until he was 22. Then he says, "but don't worry, I'm not unexperienced, I've been with 44 girls." So what was going on in my head? Math. If he lost it right when he was 22, that would make him having sex at the rate of 22 girls a year, that's nearly two a month. I haven't been with that many guys ever, and I lost my virginity exactly 10 years ago from the time this happened. I didn't know what to say, all I could think about is where the nearest exit was. Sex is wonderful, but if he's still going at the same rate, he'd surely be up to 88 girls now. Maybe he was making up for lost time?
allina Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Maybe it's just me but I don't see why this would make you want to puke.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Maybe it's just me but I don't see why this would make you want to puke. I find it disgusting two feel the need to have sex so much you find 2 new girls each month. Find a friend with benefits. Heck, I love sex, even more then some of the guys I've dated, but I would in no way sleep with two new guys a month.
allina Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I find it disgusting two feel the need to have sex so much you find 2 new girls each month. Find a friend with benefits. Heck, I love sex, even more then some of the guys I've dated, but I would in no way sleep with two new guys a month. I personally wouldn't want to sleep with 2 new guys a month either, but I don;t take issue with people who do. Also, a part of me feels like it's good for peole to get a good variety of sex/partners in before they settle down
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 I personally wouldn't want to sleep with 2 new guys a month either, but I don;t take issue with people who do. Also, a part of me feels like it's good for peole to get a good variety of sex/partners in before they settle down To each there own, but I was sitting there thinking how glad I was I knew this, because the thought of being with someone who had sex with two girls a month (heck one month if coulda been none, then another 4) really gives me the "I think I'm gonna throw up" feeling.
amaysngrace Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Personally I think that he must not be very good or they'd have hung out a little bit longer, don't you think? Or he would have and they must not have been very good.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Personally I think that he must not be very good or they'd have hung out a little bit longer, don't you think? Personally I'm glad I never found out if he was good
amaysngrace Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Personally I'm glad I never found out if he was good Yeah well I think he wasn't good because he is the common one and if he was so good they would want more and if I were you I'd tell him that.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Yeah well I think he wasn't good because he is the common one and if he was so good they would want more and if I were you I'd tell him that. I prolly would have if I stuck it out lol
thewingwoman Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 If it is true, you're right, it's pretty unattractive. But considering the way he went about telling you, I'm more skeptical about whether he was being completely honest. Kinda sounds to me like he was trying to make up for the previous statement, and may have over exaggerated a bit. Either way, good job to you for not being #45.
amaysngrace Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 So where did you meet him again? I agree with whoever said he sounds like one trashy dude. Did he at least buy you drinks?
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 If it is true, you're right, it's pretty unattractive. But considering the way he went about telling you, I'm more skeptical about whether he was being completely honest. Kinda sounds to me like he was trying to make up for the previous statement, and may have over exaggerated a bit. Either way, good job to you for not being #45. Honestly, I don't think it was that exaggerated, I knew someone that knew him... and um, well lets just say it could be confirmed. Besides, it's not like 44 is a number to brag about in two years So where did you meet him again? I agree with whoever said he sounds like one trashy dude. Did he at least buy you drinks? It was one of my online dating adventures a few years ago. He actually complained that he didn't want to buy, but he wanted to see me again. I declined.
Trialbyfire Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Yup, I'd say he was compensating in some way, real or imagined. Glad you didn't fall for it! I'll never understand why people are so concerned about "appearing" experienced. No amount of sexual experience or validation of any kind, can fill someone who's an empty void inside.
You'reasian Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 If it is true, you're right, it's pretty unattractive. But considering the way he went about telling you, I'm more skeptical about whether he was being completely honest. Kinda sounds to me like he was trying to make up for the previous statement, and may have over exaggerated a bit. Either way, good job to you for not being #45. Good God, your avatar looks like someone I know!!!
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Yup, I'd say he was compensating in some way, real or imagined. Glad you didn't fall for it! I'll never understand why people are so concerned about "appearing" experienced. No amount of sexual experience or validation of any kind, can fill someone who's an empty void inside. I'd rather have an inexperienced man then one who's been around his corner, his friends corner, the bars corner, (well you get the point). Being experienced isn't what makes someone good in bed in my eyes. It's making it something special and wonderful. Things can be learned, but what comes with it has to be natural.
thewingwoman Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Good God' date=' your avatar looks like someone I know!!![/quote'] It's me... You don't happen to live in Alabama do you?
thewingwoman Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I'd rather have an inexperienced man then one who's been around his corner, his friends corner, the bars corner, (well you get the point). Being experienced isn't what makes someone good in bed in my eyes. It's making it something special and wonderful. Things can be learned, but what comes with it has to be natural. I strongly agree on this. Just because you've slept with a ton of other women doesn't mean you're experienced in what pleases me. I'll take a guy that sneak peaks Cosmo every so often over the town womanizer anyday.
Trialbyfire Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I'd rather have an inexperienced man then one who's been around his corner, his friends corner, the bars corner, (well you get the point). Being experienced isn't what makes someone good in bed in my eyes. It's making it something special and wonderful. Things can be learned, but what comes with it has to be natural. I agree. A good lover has empathy, natural sensuality/enjoys being tactile/does the unexpected/is playful. Add in the emotional highs of being in love, thus wants to give and enjoys receiving, and it's like dynamite!
You'reasian Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 It's me... You don't happen to live in Alabama do you? Your avatar looks like the twin to somone I know.
amaysngrace Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 He actually complained that he didn't want to buy, but he wanted to see me again. I declined. Wow you didn't even get free food or drinks? The guy is no good. For anything. Good Call!
You'reasian Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 What about old fashioned communication? Talking to that person, appreciating their quirks, gestured, vibes and their uniqueness. That's fun.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 What about old fashioned communication? Talking to that person, appreciating their quirks, gestured, vibes and their uniqueness. That's fun. No issue with this, as long as I'm not gonna be notch #45. You know, I'm a firm believer that an STD can happen to anyone sexual active. Regardless. For many many reasons. But this guy is just like asking for one. When I was younger, I was careless and used sex as a way to fill an empty void, but not 44 people in two years. I haven't even been with 44 people in 11 years. And that's assuming he started right when he turned 22, because when I met him he just turned 24. This could be 44 people in a year and a half. Ick!!!!
You'reasian Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 No issue with this, as long as I'm not gonna be notch #45. You know, I'm a firm believer that an STD can happen to anyone sexual active. Regardless. For many many reasons. But this guy is just like asking for one. When I was younger, I was careless and used sex as a way to fill an empty void, but not 44 people in two years. I haven't even been with 44 people in 11 years. And that's assuming he started right when he turned 22, because when I met him he just turned 24. This could be 44 people in a year and a half. Ick!!!! That is a large number of partners. I think we guys feel the same way as you ladies.
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