whatacinch Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Hi guys, my ex recently just broke up with me for the third time in the past 1 yr 5 months. Every time it has been 4-5 month intervals and then he would break up with me out of nowhere. One day it would be great, next he would ignore me completely for a week. I have been through so much with this person and btw I must add he is bipolar, says he has seasonal depression, and also has really bad anxiety. He hasn't been on any meds since we started dating. The point is, throughout all his problems (outbursts, emotional and even physical abuse once). I have been there for him to help even financially. He hasn't had a job since we started dating. His mom left him when he was young, his father has been in jail for the past 2-3 years so all he has are his grandparents. Not to mention physical abuse from his father when he was little. All in all, I'm saying is that I believe I've done the best I can to be a good girlfriend but I feel like I'm his mother sometimes. When he ignores me out of nowhere then breaks up with me it feels like I don't even know this person. How can someone (even with bipolar) be so void of emotions? unless he never loved/cared about me to begin with? I walked to his house, waited an hour for him to wake up, and finally got an answer that he wants to break up with me. While he's breaking up with me he is on the phone with his friends talking and laughing and making plans. A total 180 while I'm standing there crying my eyes out and doesn't and won't offer any explanation. Is it me? Does it seem like no matter what I do it is hopeless? People tell me its great you guys are broken up he's not good enough for you but that doesn't stop me from feeling overwhelming pain and sadness... How can I ever trust someone with my heart again? They will just try to win you over, then once they have your heart they throw it into a pile of mud and step all over it...
birdmadgirl Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 No, right now, it feels like crap. Realistically, it may feel that way for a while. But eventually, you WILL find someone who appreciates you, who doesn't emotionally blackmail you into doing whatever it is they want you to do, and it's going to make you realize that, yes, you ARE better off without him. And I promise you that you are. In the meantime, be good to yourself and know that you did everything you could for this person. You can love someone with all your heart, but it's not always possible to save them from themselves.
Joker77 Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Go find someone who will appreciate everything that you are. This guy has way WAY too much baggage and it will never go away.
Author whatacinch Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 thanks guys. i think it will be awhile before i venture into heartbreak land but for right now i just need to get out of this funk =[
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