Author Lights Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 Ok, I haven't read this thread lately... Thanks for dodging every question I asked and spouting platitudes.
spookie Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Some approaches are just plain weird. I was wandering around town today and a REALLY cute guy walking toward me smiled and said "Hey". I would have loved to take him to an alley to make out, but wtf was I supposed to follow his "hey" up with, other than one of my own? I couldn't figure it out fast enough, so our paths diverged. I was not left flattered, but frustrated.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 A man was hitting on me in the park today, and as we were parting ways, another man appeared to be approaching me. He made some strange comment -- I have no idea what he was talking about -- and Man #1 became slightly hostile toward Man #2, I guess in some protective move, or move to scare him off? It worked. I found this amusing. His approach was great. A bit of pleasant get-to-know-ya conversation, the flirtation/compliment portion (seemingly sincere, not over-the-top and sexual), and getting my number. I'll definitely say yes to a date with him.
Surfer Dude Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Thanks for dodging every question I asked and spouting platitudes. With this kind of negative attitude, I think women are better off not meeting some frustrated guy with no social skills and social value. Stick to your computer and don't go out. HINT: frustration and negativity aren't attractive.
openbook08 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Last Thursday night: Guy no. 1 : "can i say something to you that ive been wanting to say all night but ill prob. get a slap......youve got a fantastic rack" Me : "thanks i grew them myself BYE" Guy no. 2 : "youve got amazing eyes....theyre so big & blue...can i take you out next week? we'll go to the cinema & then have a ride" Me (staring at him intensely with my big blue eyes) : "I DONT THINK SO. bye" Him : "youre so negative" come on!!!!!!!!! i like surfer dudes approach actually. id respond a lot better to someone talking with me like that than above!!
yeex Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Yeah I agree that Surfer Dude offered the best advice on this thread from a male's perspective. Why the hell would you shoot him down like that? He is trying to help you. I hope the women you approach are not sensing this inner frustration because you will not get far with that.
Isolde Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Some approaches are just plain weird. I was wandering around town today and a REALLY cute guy walking toward me smiled and said "Hey". I would have loved to take him to an alley to make out, but wtf was I supposed to follow his "hey" up with, other than one of my own? I couldn't figure it out fast enough, so our paths diverged. I was not left flattered, but frustrated. Yep, when I do get approached this is how it plays out.
Author Lights Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 Some approaches are just plain weird. I was wandering around town today and a REALLY cute guy walking toward me smiled and said "Hey". I would have loved to take him to an alley to make out, but wtf was I supposed to follow his "hey" up with, other than one of my own? I couldn't figure it out fast enough, so our paths diverged. I was not left flattered, but frustrated. Yep, when I do get approached this is how it plays out. Just out of curiosity, did you follow up with the hey back? I can understand about the diverging paths thing (I've done years of attempts at approaching while moving); would there have been some other form of initial approach that would you have considered more preferable? A man was hitting on me in the park today... His approach was great. A bit of pleasant get-to-know-ya conversation, the flirtation/compliment portion (seemingly sincere, not over-the-top and sexual), and getting my number. I'll definitely say yes to a date with him. Thanks for sharing that, Ruby Slippers. Last Thursday night... Thanks for sharing that, Openbook08. Yeah I agree that Surfer Dude offered the best advice on this thread from a male's perspective. Why the hell would you shoot him down like that? Because he evaded every question I had asked and spouted platitudes. Quite simple, really. If there is any doubt on the matter of evasion, I direct you to the post to which he replied: - Did he, or did he not state what sorts of behavior would be considered boring, creepy, or pest-like? - Did he, or did he not state "what disarms them [the women]"? - Did he, or did he not identify measures to take in order to identify women who were threats, maniacs, or predators? (Though he did mention "screening" women in his posts, his idea of "screening" was resorting to a sour grapes attitude post facto towards unfriendly women or women who rejected him, and not a coherent strategy specifically against the threats, maniacs, and predators he wrote of in his own post.) - Did he, or did he not explain what "have your game straight" means? And I don't need empty platitudes or even outright lies either, even if someone else here thinks they're "the best advice on this thread". I now quote these examples: There's no such thing as failure, there's only learning experience and you get to hone your social skills for free Pure motivational b.s. at its worst. I'm sad to say I've actually lived the consequence of believing it in my life. What happens if the rejections don't yield information that allows you to learn anything or hone any skill? (That is generally what happens.) And nobody gets hurt by talking to strangers anyways, only positive and good results can stem from that. If this was so true, then why was there any talk of defenses against maniacs, threats, and predators? I rest my case. In sum, I have no problem with people who don't have much constructive to add to this topic. It's just that it'd be nice if they'd either stay away from the thread or else say "I don't know." rather than spouting evasions and platitudes. Even if you imagine him as trying to help me, goodwill may be a complement for, but is no way a substitute for actual knowledge!
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