Meeting vs. Date

[birdmadgirl]

So, the guy I talked about in my last thread called, and I am hopping in the shower to get ready to meet him for dinner in just a moment. Before I do, I have a question.

 

It's been a while since there's been an Act II following a first meeting, so I'm feeling a bit out of my depth. When the guy refers to "meeting up," that's not the same as a date, is it? Because I meet up with my girl friends/platonic guy friends, but I go out with guys I'm interested in. Also, for you guys who make a distinction between the two, do you find yourself eventually wanting to date girls with whom you initially start out "meeting up"?

 

I realize that what he feels/wants is what he feels/wants, and no amount of analysis will change that, but it just got me thinking and I figured I'd bounce it off my fellow LSers.

 

Back in a bit!

 

::is nervous::

[BobSacamento]

If it's a blind date type of thing, like your meeting the person for the first time I don't really consider it a date. As in I would be more interested in getting to know the person mentally then physically. But if I know the girl, through mutual friends and have already gotten to know her, I'd be in make a move mode and looking for my opening all night lol.

[BCCA]

Some people get weirded out by labeling things a 'date', so in response, many people kind of leave it ambiguous. If its two of you, and youre doing what you would on a date, its a date - he just doesnt want to scare you off, and to a certain degree, might be affraid that if calls it a date youre going to inform him that youre not interested in more than friends. If he doesnt label it, then it is whatever it ends up being. If you guys just hang out as platonic friends, then it wasnt a date, but if you seem into each other and do something 'date-ish', thats a different story.

 

'Hang out' or 'meet up' are just softer words for a date.

[birdmadgirl]

Thanks for your responses. In this case, it was a let's-be-friends kind of deal.

 

I quit.