Mandapanda Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Long story short My husband and me have to go to NC for his brothers son's thing at church (something to do with being catholic) and I say 'Have to' because my husband is the Godfather, so he has to be there. Anyways, even though we are married I have only met his parents (which was after the wedding, it's a crazy story, for later) his parents loved me of course. But this time... I'll be meeting the WHOLE family!!! it's insane! You can't imagine how nervous I am just thinking about it. So automaticly I figured we would stay in a hotel. little did I know the plan was that me and my husband, his mom and dad, the brother and his wife where all staying at his brothers house. (a total of ten; 8 adults and 2 kids) well.. lets just say that wasn't going to fly with me. Here are my reasons... 1. TEN PEOPLE 2. The first time I meet someome I do not want to wake up on their couch the next day, my hair all messy, as their sitting in the living room next to me watching tv!!! 3. I have dust allergies, and from what the mother has said dave's brothers wife is NOT a clean freak like me 4. In order for me to sleep, it has to be super cold. Like... 67 with a box fan IN MY FACE Bottom line, I just would not be comfortable. So me and my husband fought and fought and fought and I finally won. And we saved up 300 for the hotel, and rental car. Anyways, yesturday as I was cleaning I started thinking '300 is alot of money... i could do alot with that' So I sat down, and realized that if I could set it up right, I could be getting a few new items. So we sat on the couch and I said to him, (out of the blue) 'You know, I've been thinking lately... and I feel bad, about the whole hotel situation, i was just thinking of myself and how I felt, I never asked why you wanted SO badly to stay there' so he tells me that he wanted to stay to be close to his godson, that he never sees him and blah blah blah So then I tell him how selfish I was, and that we are going to stay at his brothers house. So at that point, he felt a little bad. So we're watching a hair commercial and I say 'I hate that your family has to meet me the first time, with my hair looking like this' (my hair looks fine, but i wanted highlights) so he says 'Well baby, we do have some extra money I don't see why you can't get your highlights' So after all is said and done I am getting highlights A new Guess purse A set of Gel Nails And my toes done And two new pairs of pants and two new shirts. Should I feel bad that I made him think that we were doing it all for him, when in reality I just wanted some new stuff?! Because I feel kind of proud that I did my first successful manipulation.
slimjim Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 its always about you women isnt it? just be as happy when he does it to you one day, then talk about double standards. everyone loves to manipulate, until its done to them. remember, you can fake an orgasm, but men can fake entire relationships--think about it. your time will come. now take that some of that money for your new claws and buy him something!!!
Author Mandapanda Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 its always about you women isnt it? just be as happy when he does it to you one day, then talk about double standards. everyone loves to manipulate, until its done to them. remember, you can fake an orgasm, but men can fake entire relationships--think about it. your time will come. now take that some of that money for your new claws and buy him something!!! '' Haha. I bought him a DSi. That's what he had been wanting.
Author Mandapanda Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 Great!!! now go and sin no more!!!!!!haha I shall.
thewingwoman Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I don't see why you would feel guilty. He's getting what he wanted. You just found a way to be happier with your decision. We all do things we don't want to do, but we have to cope with it by reminding ourselves that there is some positive in it for us... even if that positive is just a good feeling of doing something for someone else. Your case just happens to have material positives, and that's not a bad thing.
Kaii Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Sorry, I think what you did was awful. Your husband just wanted to spend time with his family and you refused him that opportunity because of all your fussy little demands. Apparently, you wear the pants in your relationship. He should of told you "Suck it up, this is important to me", and you should of done the right thing and agreed to go. Why would you be proud of manipulating him?? Because you managed to get a bunch of new stuff out of it? I think it's terrible.
mental_traveller Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 He's getting what he wants, you're getting what you want. Everyone's happy.
boldjack Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Manda, The ends, justify the means, do they? If I were you I would come clean with your husband and try to be more truthful. If my wife ever tried to anything like this with me, there would be some serious sh*t going down. If getting some material things and being deceitful with your husband is more important to you than to have a true and honest marriage, then go for it. The good news is that deceit and manipulation get easier with practice, the bad news comes when your husband finds out how you've "played", him
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