dethfire Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 just need to vent how pathetic I am... my ex who I've been NC with for 3-4 months out of the blue emails me something that happened at work that relates to me. I reply back right away with some neutral acknowledgment of the situation. it was just a few sentences but after I sent I see lots of misspelling and grammar problems and now I am embarrassed. but I am ashamed because I shouldn't care and I really shouldn't have even replied back. i am weak and stupid
anni1979 Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Why "shouldn't" you care? You're being very hard on yourself. Try this (worked for me last week when I found myself bawling in the bathroom at work ): If you feel embarassed, say to yourself "I'm embarassed, and that's okay". Say it over and over again until you believe that it's okay. Or "I hate that I still care, and that's okay". Or whatever you are feeling. You aren't stupid or weak. You're a person that feels things - and that's better than the alternative! If we block out the bad, we won't be able to experience the good, either. So chin up! Setbacks happen, but that's all they are... hiccups on the way to being totally over it!
Scorpio13c Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Why "shouldn't" you care? You're being very hard on yourself. Try this (worked for me last week when I found myself bawling in the bathroom at work ): If you feel embarassed, say to yourself "I'm embarassed, and that's okay". Say it over and over again until you believe that it's okay. Or "I hate that I still care, and that's okay". Or whatever you are feeling. You aren't stupid or weak. You're a person that feels things - and that's better than the alternative! If we block out the bad, we won't be able to experience the good, either. So chin up! Setbacks happen, but that's all they are... hiccups on the way to being totally over it! I agree with this. Anni, you are a wise person! Scorp
jessicasilver Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 your not weak at all it just shows that you are a genuine person who cared for your ex!! dont be embarassed.....
eclipseIDE Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 just need to vent how pathetic I am... my ex who I've been NC with for 3-4 months out of the blue emails me something that happened at work that relates to me. I reply back right away with some neutral acknowledgment of the situation. it was just a few sentences but after I sent I see lots of misspelling and grammar problems and now I am embarrassed. but I am ashamed because I shouldn't care and I really shouldn't have even replied back. i am weak and stupid I agree with everyone else on here, Dont put yourself down for having a heart!
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