SOCLUELESS Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Ill try and make it short... I was with my daughters father for 8 years...he was alot of first things for me,we started dating when i was 16... For many reasons we split and i moved out... I have been dating other guys and im sure he is with other girls.. He always takes about getting and getting married and having another kid etc... My thing is i feel so confused.. I left cuz he is very jealous and it was getting old afrter 8 years so i wanted my space and was sure i wanted to be alone. Now i have a great guy friend(re-bound dude i guess) and he is sooooo good to me and to my daughter but, i cant stop thinking bout my ex and if i am making the right decision. On easter my mom told me to take the new guy to my familys and i refused cuz i was thinking i dont want no other men there after my ex. I know i still care for him and love him but, i also kno he agrivates the hell out of me with the jealousy and insecurities but then again i noticed with the new guys there all jealous and demanding so maybe its not so much my ex's issue. Do u think i am just used to my ex and the idea of "us" or do u think i am wanting to try again?? I know if i cant answer this no one else can but im so lost and am open to peoples opinions..
2sure Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Well, first - they arent all jealous and demanding. A confident and happy man is neither. So you have found two that are. Could be nothing. BUT: Could be you have come to a comfort level with this type of guy. With relationships, and who we choose - it isnt uncommon to keep ending up with the same guy, or a similar guy - until we learn to want something else. Why not look for a confident & happy guy?
Author SOCLUELESS Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 See thats the thing... Dude im talking to now has been around (as a friend) since the begining of a breakup and he seen alll the crazy things i went threw with my ex and he would sit there and tell me himself how my ex is insecure and over possesive and how that pushes people away etc. He was so confifent and had this way about him that showed he was the laid back dude that didnt lose his cool and didnt stress girls... Thheenn we started messing around and talking as more then friends as boom... When i ask him what happend to the non jealous guy he says " its the man in me and i never cared for a girl the way i care for u, i cant help it" and "im stingy" and all this other bs. Since we were friends before anything i even talk to a mutual friend and ask were i went wrong and hes just as clueless....he says he never seen dude like this either. Im starting to think its something im doin wrong
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