kaisergal Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 erm i feel pretty used by my guyfriend to be honest. We were mates for just over a year hes always been a flirt and quite tactile but he was engaged at time so didnt see anything in it. After a while he started giving me the comeon but i ignored it hence he had a gf. Anyway he started being distant i didnt know why until he told me he met this girl. Week later he dumped his fiance of 4 years and she dumped her bf of 6 years. After two months they were engaged - he tried to get her to marry him in july but parents talked her round. But have moved in just after 4 months. Do u think this will last his family are worried that its a rebound as they both came out of long distance relationships. Oh hes been engaged 3 times before.
anne1707 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Kaisergal I am going to have to be blunt here. You have started over a dozen threads about this friend since October and most of these have been in the past week. You say he is only a friend but it seems he means a lot more than that to you. However he is not with you, he is with someone else plus if what you say about him is true, he is not the most committed of men in relationships anyway. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? You really need to stop obsessing over him - sorry but this is what you are doing. I recommend that you go for NC and do whatever it takes to get this man out of your head (and heart). Don't meet him, don't talk to him, don't email him, don't text him - end all communication now for your own sake.
2sure Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 You like him, but he treats you badly. Then this is a YOU problem, not a HIM problem. He has clearly told you that he does not want a relationship of that sort with you. Analyzing why he wants one with someone other than you is pointless. He is just a jerk. There is no mystery here. It happens to all of us.
BCCA Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Do u think this will last Well, I can only think of one reason why you would care. I think the hard part about relationships is that sometimes doing the right thing for yourself means walking away from someone you really dig. I think your problem here is that you've realized all he sees you as is a potential fling, and you want him to dump all his other women and devote his love to you. If he hasnt made it clear enough, thats not going to happen. His track record is pretty clear, he's a relationship hopper. He goes from one to the next, always looking for something new and exciting. Stop talking to this guy, hes pretty much a douche, and never going to be what you want him to.
Author kaisergal Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Do you think thts all he saw me as then i did feel he had feelings for me but i probs am wrong! So u all pretty much think he is a jerk! What u reckon bout this relationship hes in now and how hes making out hes oh so happy - does that still mean hell go sniffing again at some point
anne1707 Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Just stop wasting your time on him. He is not interested. You really need to forget him.
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