OCCDAVE Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 If you know my story then you know my ex dumped me back in November.Since then i got my stuff back in feb and she told me recently as of 2 weeks ago she still isn't over me and cares about me.I found a new girl ive been getting to know real well the past 2 months or so.I wont consider her a rebound cause i feel i am over my ex but there are some times when at the end of the day my ex just keeps crossing my mind.My ex was my first love will i ever just 100% forget her from my mind or no.It also happens when we do certain things go to sporting events which this girl isnt much of a fan of all things my ex was meh.
kristinnicole_13 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Well, I am not very familiar with your situation but I can tell you that you are always going to remember her. Certain things you do will spark an old memory of her but as time goes by those feelings won't be as confusing. Just try to concentrate on making things work with this new girl of yours and just remember that your ex is an ex for a reason.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Ugh what a sapp i am hear i am crying my eyes out ugh get out of my head already.
badbrit Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I feel your pain Dave, I really do. It is hard because she does f*** with your head with her little texts and stuff. I do not know how you get a girl out of your head when you are madly in love with them and invested so many emotions into them that they are almost some kind of obsession. I am the same with my ex, 5 years, a son together, split a year but still it burns loud inside even though I sometimes do not even like her bizarrely. I look at her and see what she is (tart, loose moraled, troubled, selfish, self centred, uncompromising, manipulative, disorganised, untidy, lazy, user, deceitful, game player, lacking in basic life skills) and what she offers (very little except misery as she is such incredible hard work and very draining) but still, I am the idiot because I love this girl. I love who she can be if you spend time with her and see what she could be. So I do not know how you deal with it fella, if you find out let me know, but do know that you are not the only one to be going through this, it is just something that i guess we have to live through and when we eventually come out the other side, we will be a lot wiser and a lot stronger.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Why dont you call her and talk to her....she said she still had feelings for you, it may make you feel better. She has done some shady things and said things, etc...my ex suggessted calling so I could have soeme closure and we got everything out, and believe it or not, it really helped me.
Author OCCDAVE Posted April 19, 2009 Author Posted April 19, 2009 Why dont you call her and talk to her....she said she still had feelings for you, it may make you feel better. She has done some shady things and said things, etc...my ex suggessted calling so I could have soeme closure and we got everything out, and believe it or not, it really helped me.Eh id rather just not talk to her ever again plus it works both ways she knows my number why doesn't she call ?Anyway i have a good thing going with this new girl i just need to put my guard down and trust her cause my ex has broken my faith in girls meh
wilsoedand Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I only joined this thread to help me understand what happened last night. I saw "her" on a facebook page and for some odd reason began to have odd dreams about her. It has been about a year since we broke off, over, if anything bigger, the fact that my father was dying and she said it was too much for her. I feel everyone's pain, I have been down this road a couple of times and all I can say is that the pain will hurt less and less over the coming months and years. I know this isn't so much consolation, but it is fact. Take care of yourself, learn new things, find something to occupy your time and for all intense purposes, just don't bring her back in your life. Know if anything, that you are an individual that needs to feel loved for who you are, what you are and what you can be. I address this not only to you and to others, but to me. You have to live your life for yourself, not for anyone else. I hope I helped in a little way. Take care and hope you all feel well.
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