jedidriver Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Wow its been a long time since i've been on here - I got some great help with coping with a previous relationship breakup 2 years ago plus this was a great place to get my thoughts and emotions out. Fell into a rebound relationship which i feel quite guilty about which ended 6 months ago I've met someone new who I really like and we have been seeing each other for a two months - things have been great but we have taken thing slowly - seeing each other over weekends and once in the week and staying over at each others houses. Me 33 her 35. Met her family over the weekend, went salsa dancing went out walking in the county and we seemed to be getting on ok. On Tuesday morning she seemed a bit cold towards me when I was leaving for work. Not sure how to describe it just a gut feel or maybe I was reading the signs wrong We are off to a wedding do this Friday - which she invited me two weeks ago so I'm not sure she would cancel if she was losing interest. Anyway I think my point that I am starting to have some doubts in my mind and I think its due to the fact that I really like this girl and am putting up barriers to prevent myself going through any hurt again but I do have this nagging doubt and have a horrible feeling that she may be sensing it and its all based around a gut feel
moman Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 If you think she is losing interest, she probably is, or will be shortly because of the actions you are (will be) doing. Acting clingly, insecure, needy. Are you doing these or just going with the flow?
samspade Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Back off a little and give her some room to breathe. Give her the gift of missing you. Be honest: Are you "putting up barriers," or are you too available and too emotional? Is it a pattern or just one instance? I'm pretty cranky without my caffeine in the morning.
Author jedidriver Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 If you think she is losing interest, she probably is, or will be shortly because of the actions you are (will be) doing. Acting clingly, insecure, needy. Are you doing these or just going with the flow? Don't think I have been too clingy or acted insecure around her at all and really have gone with the flow - there is a balance between her initiating any contact and myself . Although really don't like playing games with people your right being too clingy is off putting and I avoid doing it. But I agree with your first comment - if I have any feelingas of insecurity people pick up on this.
Author jedidriver Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Thanks for the advice so far - maybe I should give her some space. Would appreciate some female views
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