BelleS Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Hi, I am so confused. I have fallen for someone I hardly know. Ive seen him at my work and over a year ago and fell deeply. At first he didnt really catch my attention but later on it was almost like he MADE me fall for him. This look that he gave me, I cannot describe it. Anyway, I stopped working there. However, I still see this individual EVERYWHERE! We live pretty close, yes I know where he lives through coincidence. The funny thing is I dont see him in our area, I see him in other areas. He visits various places for his work and I see him at all different shopping malls. Thats how I first saw him, when he visited where I worked. speaking of coincidences. I see him more often than I see my other friends. Mind you there are like over 10 different places he visits and I visit about 3 of them randomly. I mean ok, fair enough that this person is there, that is roughly predictable. But Im talking about coming face to face almost at the same time. Such as when I arrive, he will happen to be walking to his car. Once when I was walking across a road he happened to be in the car coming towards me. Its always perfect timing. I am so confused. I cant get him out of my mind. I always think of him. There was a time that I didnt see him for about 5 weeks and that still wasnt enough to get over it. Nothing is helping and most importantly I dont even know him. Sometimes i think for us to see each other it must be a mutual thing because me wanting to see him is merely not enough. Even if I go out of my way to see him I couldnt its too hard to find someone. You cant even find your friends sometimes when you agree to meet up somewhere. i dont know what he feels about me. I can see that he notices me because he looks. But why is he looking I dont know, it could just be a "i know you" look. My friends have seen him look to but yeh I dont know. when I first saw him and felt nothing I remember thinking that he was really friendly. I was like "why is this guy being really friendly" lol. He used to smile at me but now I just act like I dont notice him at all, but he surely notices. How can you fall so deeply for someone you dont know I do not understand.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Well, before you push him too high on that pedestal, how about talking to him more? If he really is interested, he may just ask you out. But the ignoring thing - that's got to stop. He probably thinks you picked up on something from him and don't like him. So he's never going to ask you out if that's the case. And even if it never turns into anything romantic, he could actually turn out to be a really good friend. Give it a shot - strike up a convo!
colosseum Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Sounds to me like a middle-school crush...Do you know his name? Stare straight into his eyes and flash him a smile, hopefully he'll notice and make the approach. If not and you're still interested, you should just go up to him and just say something like "hey I see you around all the time and just thought I'd say hi" or something. And don't think about it too much--that always kills things--just do it. Although I think this applies more often to guys since they're the ones that have to do the approaching.
Author BelleS Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 Im not sure what the photography thing is about but yeh thanks guys for your responses. It does seem like this whole crush situation going on and I constantly give myself a hard time for it. And yeh I do know his name and last name. He lives really close to me, Ive even seen his mum. Yes I know, weird. But it has gone beyond physical attraction for me. I am aware that he is not perfect. There are flaws I could see and dont get me wrong I dont focus on his flaws, but Im not totally blinded by him. I acknowledge that hes just a normal person, but I am really attracted to him and everything about him. I am sort of the person who can only fall for personality so I dismiss guys easily based on appearance. By that I mean the personality they potray based on their appearance. For example, if I see a good looking guy I would just be turned off by his arrogance but fall for someone who has a genuine smill even if theyre not totally hot. So, what I am saying is Im not like totally smitten by his looks. Its more about the person I see through the looks. Is it normal to fall deeply for someone you dont know very well? I mean how wrong could I be in my judgements. He is nice to nearly everyone. He also visits my friends work and she says that hes really nice to everyone there. But its more than that. I feel like there is more to him, pain that he hides. I want to comfort him and care for him. I dont want him for my gratification, I want him to be happy. I dont even know how that is possible if I dont know him. Ive thought many times whether its some sort of obsession and Im acting way out of line, but I think, if I'm questioning my sanity, I must have sanity left in me. And these occurrences. Im a spiritual person so I take signs from God. I dont act on all of them (obviously) but it gets me thinking. I go to bed praying to God that I move on and the next day I see him. Its becoming scary and annoying. Another thing I dont understand is how guys think. One week I remember he was nice to me saying goodbye and smiling and the following week he was acting like I wasnt there. I didnt really understand him. Its kinda like I know he looks but he I cant catch it out. For example, someone walks by and I look at them, then he puts up his head and looks at what im looking at which shows that he knows what im doing. Or we walk past each other and when I look back hes looking back a few times. After watching "Hes just not that into you" Ive come to take things for face value. Hes not doing anything so hes not interested, period. Do guys do any of these subtle things? And if hes so FRIENDLY why is he in ignore mode sometimes?
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