Frustrated! Angry! Confused!...

[ogbaby]

I don't understand why I just can't get over it! I posted a few weeks ago on my break up situation, under "Mortified", and basically I am still feeling awful . I can't understand why it's taking me so long to get over a 3month relationship! I've been in relationships for years that I was able to get over within a month! It's been a month and a half and I am still thinking about it everyday!

 

I just feel so dis-respected and un-appreciated...(quick update: we broke up, 2wks later...he was back with his ex whom was trying to break us up the whole time). I'm constantly thinking about thier relationship (which is prob how SHE felt when him and I were together). I keep secretly wishing they would break up, not so that I can be with him cuz, honestly, I'm not sure I ever could after all this. I just want him to feel like ****! The way he's made me feel..(and her but she's dumb enough to take him back). It's been mentally exhausting and I wish I could just erase it all but it won't go away . I'm pretty sure when I completely delete him from my memory, that's when he's going to pop up in my life somehow...always happens that way. This isn't the first time I've been in this situation...men are always super sweet in the very beginning. Then a few months into the relationship, when emotions and behavioral aspects are involved, they begin backing out...just to try to come back a couple months later...WHY? Is it me?

[TaraMaiden]

Yes.

of course it is.

Who else could it be?

 

we cannot control everything that goes on around us and outside, so the only way we can turn is to ourselves.

This is all affecting you, because you permit it to do so.

Nobody is hurting you or hitting you, or beating you in any physical way.

The only way this is all affecting you is mentally and emotionally.

Those things are in your mind, generated by your mind, and under the mind's control.

All you have to do is to start wanting to behave in a different way.

Only then, will it change.....