A34571 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 My parents moved to Colorado last year, and I intend to follow in their steps May 2009. In June 2008, I met this guy when I went to visit my parents, and it was instant attraction for both of us. We started talking online, then on the phone, then I drove out 600 miles to visit him - and we IMMEDIATELY hit it off. Initially we both agreed that we would just keep in touch until I moved out there for good, but then a few more visits later, we decided 'we can make this work'. We flew back and forth (me the majority of the time, since I'm out of college and he's not.) This continued for 5-6 months until, pretty much, one day he calls me, crying, and says "I don't think I feel the way I should. I don't miss you when you're not here, our phone calls aren't the same as they used to be.. I care about you so much and if there is any way you think we can be friends I would really like that." Despite talking on the phone for an hour and a half, I still have absolutely no idea what the hell happened. He basically said, 'once the infatuation wore off, I realized I wasn't in love." And my favorite: "Two people can be totally compatible, have a great time together, and get along great, and it's just not right." That was in February. It's been two months and I haven't heard a WORD from him!!!! I pulled the "fanatically upset ex-girlfriend" thing for about a week, then stopped. I have had NC for the last month and a half, barring one text message that I sent out of absolute necessity. I promise =) I guess that I'm just having a hard time dealing with the fact that this person that I once felt like I was SO close to has essentially dropped me like a bad habit. There was really NOTHING wrong, he just stopped feelin' it. And while I totally understand on an intellectual level that I don't want someone that would just change their mind and peace out.. I was always totally happy with him. My sisters have told me that flying out to visit every other weekend was overkill. Maybe this is true. For a few months there, it felt like all I did was work/fly/work/fly. I was really getting tired of that aspect of it, but I knew it was temporary. Oh and the good news is, I'm moving within 10 minutes of him in about a month. This move was planned before I ever met him, it was just a coincidence. It's just making things really, really hard. I'm trying to tone down the 'pathetic heartbreak' in this post... but it's been two months and I would loooove nothing more than to not look into every mirror I pass and ask myself, "what did i do to deserve this?..."
TaraMaiden Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 karma. We all have it, be it from this life or a previous one. The thing to do now is to transform your situation into something positive. we make our own karma, so start making good karma!!
KikiW Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 That really sucks that he just checked out like he did. It sounds to me like you guys could have had something really great, but he backed off - maybe it was fear, maybe he's one of those guys that just lives for the "honeymoon" period of relationships. On top of which, he didn't even talk to you about how he was feeling, so you were totally blindsided. I don't think the visits you made were overkill. He failed to communicate with you, plain and simple. Had he done so, you two could have discussed ways to bring some of the spark back for him, or at least talked about the way things sometimes do settle down and find out of he is just freaking out about that part. You definitely didn't deserve it, and I'm sorry he didn't have the guts to try and work on it. His loss. You will find someone much better!
jih Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 karma. We all have it, be it from this life or a previous one. The thing to do now is to transform your situation into something positive. we make our own karma, so start making good karma!! Piffle, hogwash, and balderdash!
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