samsungxoxo Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 being one of those highly experienced people (5 or more partners), I'm guessing you have it all easy don't you?? If there's a rocky relationship then you'll leave right away and you are almost always the dumper. Sometimes I do imagine what it would be like trying a different man, he would then be number 2. Ok I never cheated nor will I ever do it on him. I tend to fantasize more and can get a bit flirty when I get mad at him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 When you say "partners," do you mean long-term relationships? Or sexual encounters? Because I've had more than 5 sexual partners, but that doesn't mean I can't commit to a long-term relationship and stick it out when things get rough. I'm assuming your post has something to do with another thread. Could you enlighten me where this is coming from, because I'm confused.
Just Angel Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 being one of those highly experienced people (5 or more partners), I'm guessing you have it all easy don't you?? If there's a rocky relationship then you'll leave right away and you are almost always the dumper. QUOTE] Quite the assumption you're making. I personally havent had anything easy. Being experienced isnt the same as being cold or a user. I am "highly experienced" but emotionally invest myself in the people I've been with, so no relationship is easy, no break ups are either. I give my all to making a relationship work and have been the dumper only once.
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 When you say "partners," do you mean long-term relationships? Or sexual encounters? I mainly meant long term relationships. Then again there are those who had both long term relationships and sexual encounters too, wow how you do that, have sex and not being in love????
BCCA Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I mainly meant long term relationships. Then again there are those who had both long term relationships and sexual encounters too, wow how you do that, have sex and not being in love???? Im hoping youre kidding, but in case not, sexual encounters and long term relationships are very different. Sometimes, you meet someone who is just looking for a fling, and perhaps you are two, but sometimes you meet people for a long term dating situation. My 'number' is in the 30's, and Ive only been in love with 3 of them.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Samsung, as to your question about how to have sex and not be in love...it was a combination of curiosity, anger, and deep hurt from being cheated on by a sex addict. I couldn't understand WHY he did what he did. So I tried some NSA sex. I can understand the rush at like the very first meeting, but it started to fade after like the second meeting. So I did understand where he was coming from, but I realized it definitely was not for me. I had to sacrifice my self-respect to do it. So, no - it's not something I look forward to doing again.
Lizzie60 Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 being one of those highly experienced people (5 or more partners), I'm guessing you have it all easy don't you?? If there's a rocky relationship then you'll leave right away and you are almost always the dumper. Sometimes I do imagine what it would be like trying a different man, he would then be number 2. Ok I never cheated nor will I ever do it on him. I tend to fantasize more and can get a bit flirty when I get mad at him. I am one of those 'highly experienced' people.. and I have to say that it is easier.. not because I had numerous partners.. (then again.. maybe it is part of it) but because I am older and wiser.. I don't take sh*t from anyone... I've always been the dumper, except for my daughter's bio father.. but the pain was short since I was only 4 months with him.. I never cheated.. and I don't think I was ever cheated on.. (not that I know of anyway but we can never be 100% sure)... To be able to have sex without any commitment is, IMO, easier for men than women.. but it's still very doable for lots of women I think...
amymarieca Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Wow how you do that, have sex and not being in love???? Easy- insert tab A into slot B.
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 Easy- insert tab A into slot B. Lol very funny. Yes I guess I may try that if I were to be single again.
You'reasian Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 being one of those highly experienced people (5 or more partners), I'm guessing you have it all easy don't you?? If there's a rocky relationship then you'll leave right away and you are almost always the dumper. Sometimes I do imagine what it would be like trying a different man, he would then be number 2. Ok I never cheated nor will I ever do it on him. I tend to fantasize more and can get a bit flirty when I get mad at him. Some people would consider 5 partners as inexperienced. Someone whose had 100+ partners would consider someone whose had 10-20 partners inexperienced. By the way, being the stereotypical Asian male, I am stereotypically inexperienced - and of course rely on what I've read, of course. I think dumping has to do with relationship compatability, inability to resolve differences etc. - although a difference in experience might affect compatability.
RecordProducer Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I mainly meant long term relationships. Then again there are those who had both long term relationships and sexual encounters too, wow how you do that, have sex and not being in love????I've had four LTR's and about n-teen partners that weren't serious. This taught me that getting close to someone didn't mean sh*t unless I was in love. I've done the revenge thing, too. At age 34, I feel like I will only sleep with people I love from now on or not at all. Being experienced does make you immune to some pain, but it also helps you move on faster, as you guessed, which is a sad thing, IMO (because the other partner get sover ou faster and with more reality in their mind). On the one hand, you need experience, on the other hand, experience makes you resistant to the "virus of love."
xpaperxcutx Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 I'm a bit confused by your post, do you mean to ask how is it easy for others to have sex with a second person but still be in a relationship? It's mostly their mentality. Physical and emotional attachments are different to them because their beliefs helps them justify that doing things like that are okay.
Author samsungxoxo Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 I'm a bit confused by your post, do you mean to ask how is it easy for others to have sex with a second person but still be in a relationship? No that's not what I meant. I was not referring to cheating. I meant about those that jump from one relationship to another. As well as those who are not in a commited relationship but just one night stands or friends with benefits type of thing.
alphamale Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 being one of those highly experienced people (5 or more partners), closer to 50 for me, but not quite... I'm guessing you have it all easy don't you?? nope, its hard finding new "talent" If there's a rocky relationship then you'll leave right away and you are almost always the dumper. usually but not always
bean1 Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Easier? LOL! Some people get hurt but just don't seem to learn or get stuck in a cycle. I used to be like that.
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