zilverenvlinder Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 When would you say this is? 3 months? 6 months? A year? I'm going on 4 months with my little rebound that magically (poof!) evolved into a boyfriend, and I haven't met his parents. He hasn't met mine. So, in a drunken rant, I texted him: "My dad wants to know why you haven't hung out with him and my mom yet? They are very fun." (Which they are. My parents are former hippies who own a successful business, buy everyone's drinks and like tequila shots and dive bars.) He says: "I will. I just haven't. We'll have to set something up.." Great. Sounds awesome. Except, my parents are f-ing cool. I KNOW this. Everyone knows this. And I haven't met his. And it seems he has no interest in having me meet his. Should I not worry? It's a little early, don'tcha think?
lance.dark Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I can't say what is normal but I would be extremely hesitant not just to introduce a girl to my parents, but to even let them know I'm in a relationship. I wouldn't have a problem meeting her's though. Perhaps it's less a fact that he doesn't want to meet them and more a fact that he is afraid of not being what they expect/want which is completely understandable. Why don't you tell him he sounds hesitant and then ask why?
CandyGirlXO Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I have been with my BF for 4 months, known him for 3 years, and he has never meet my parents. Reasoning, my parents are crazy, and I don't want him to run for the hills. If I had great parents like yours, I would have brought him home by now. You never know what the real reason is, but try not to take it personal. I dread having to tell my BF what I mean by crazy. Most people wouldn't stay I'm afraid.
CandyGirlXO Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I can't say what is normal but I would be extremely hesitant not just to introduce a girl to my parents, but to even let them know I'm in a relationship. True, that made me feel a little better. I have not meet my BF's parents but that could be because they live out of state. Not sure if he would have by now if they lived here. But he did tell his mom he had a GF that made me feel good. My parents also know I have a BF, and they know a lot of details about him, but never met him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I guess I'm strange. Met my BF's parents on our third "date" - when I went out to stay with him for my two days off work. We've been in a relationship for almost 3 months and I see them pretty much every time I go up to see him (no, he doesn't live WITH them - just in the same, very small town). We've actually hung out with them a couple of times. Very chill people - I like them.
JP1409 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Well it might sound a bit silly, but I was at my girlfriend's house with a group of mates and I asked her out before we all left. She said yes and the next day I was at her house meeting her parents. They're absolutely awesome and cool to be around and I introduced her to my parents a week later! In my opinion, there isn't a set time you should introduce your partner to the parents, it's whenever opportunity knocks and also depends on how embarrassed about your parents you are
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