lostindust Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 So, I have loving feelings for woman A, but am not physically drawn to her as a result of actions past, and our family situation (there is a child involved as well). She is a fantastic woman, bright, happy, and easy going... I am attracted to and have caring feelings for a woman B .... she satisfies all those current elements of desire as well as keep things somewhat challenging... When with A, I think of B.. and when with B, I'm thinking of A... (trying to keep things simple here) They are entirely different people, and have their significant strengths and features that make them desirable... and it is not a physical beauty factor. I believe it is the difference between the two that has me caught up.... I am quite lost in this dust.. please help me catch my bearings.... Thanx
Heroic Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 More details needed before an opinion can be formed.
pelicanpreacher Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 You are being greedy! Think of the lesson of the dog with the bone that caught his reflection in the water and you'll understand that its best to savor what you have instead of lusting for everything you see!
Athena Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Are you in a committed relationship with either woman? For instance, are you married to one? Who cares if one is great in a different way to the other, this is NOT your 'lucky day', you are supposed to be exclusive to one person, right? I mean, unless they both know about each other and agree to an open relationship, its a given -- you must only have one... You are mucking about. Either get rid of them both and start with your slate wiped clean, or apologize to both (telling them the truth) and pick one of them... come on.. you know what the right thing to do is!!
RecordProducer Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 When with A, I think of B.. and when with B, I'm thinking of A... I hope your wife finds out and ditches your cheating ass. Flip a coin, since you don't know whom you want.
Mr. Lucky Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 So, I have loving feelings for woman A, but am not physically drawn to her as a result of actions past, and our family situation (there is a child involved as well). I'm confused. Is this your child with woman "A"? Mr. Lucky
jnj express Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 You said somewhere in this mess your wrote, there is a family, maybe your wife is neither A or B. YOU WANT A SIMPLE ANSWER, YOU ARE A CHEATER, PLAIN AND SIMPLE, you certainly do not deserve your wife, and you deserve even less to be called a father if you think nothing more of your child than to cheat on he/she. Did you take vows, try thinking about them, and what you will do to your family if you continue to violate them.
DayDreamer75 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I think you are greedy too. You can't have it all. People are not made to satisfy 100% of your expectations and needs. It seems to me that you just always out there looking for something new in order to get excited. Even if you were with woman B, unless she has some identity problems and keeps changing every day, some day, you'd find her stale as well and she will stop exciting you the way she does now. I don't think anybody can tell you what you should choose. You should decide for yourself whether you want a good committed relationship or whether you want to be forever single hopping from one flower to another like a bee. But at least be a man and be honest with both of them. Tell A that she's a marriage material but you don't want to be in a committed relationship. Tell B that she's very exciting and maybe you wanna be with her while she's new and challenging and exciting and once you find someone more exciting you'll probably walk... if you are honest and upfront with them, each of them may decide independently whether they want to spend with you even a single day of their lives. Who knows, maybe, they're looking exactly for someone like you
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