Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Hi LostSoulMate. Thank you for your kind words, and for having the depth and compassion and understanding that most people on here clearly lack. Pretty sad bunch to say the least. I haven't taken anything that the narrow-minded judgmental posters opinions to heart. I was only looking for an outlet to vent some things off my chest - as I said it has been cathartic and has given me some time to think. oh and by the way, the guy from my past is not creative at all, he's an athlete actually and he's just as deep and amazing as I am. It's amazing how incredibly bigoted and hateful people can be towards people who are different, and see me as a crazy Artist (yes it is a capital "A" morons), and so funny the usage of the word "they" when referring to creative deep people like me like I'm from another planet or like some bigoted term that people used to refer to minorities as. The posters on here don't even realize that the way they act towards others who wear their hearts on their sleeves shows just how much their shallow hardened hearts are shriveled up like a burnt out husk. As I said, I would rather die a thousand times from a broken heart then to never experience the true love and passion that I am able to feel for another soul. I don't sweat what the narrow-minded people have to say, I actually feel sorry for them. All the best to you LostSoulMate, you're a rare find. x
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 So 2, these "artistic", people aren't accountable? They are above us mere mortals and shouldn't be expected to behave with common polite manners? This woman has done nothing but sneer and insult everyone with a different opinion. I"ve never accused her of anything and have been vilified. If you want to continue posting with her, be my guest. I'm finished here. Good riddens.
GorillaTheater Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 he's an athlete actually and he's just as deep and amazing as I am. <falls off chair laughing>
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 <falls off chair laughing> well I hope you didn't hurt yourself, much In all honesty, have you nothing better to do than stalk threads looking to pounce like a sad troll?
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hi LostSoulMate. Thank you for your kind words, and for having the depth and compassion and understanding that most people on here clearly lack. Pretty sad bunch to say the least. I concur!!! I haven't taken anything that the narrow-minded judgmental posters opinions to heart. I was only looking for an outlet to vent some things off my chest - as I said it has been cathartic and has given me some time to think. oh and by the way, the guy from my past is not creative at all, he's an athlete actually and he's just as deep and amazing as I am. I am glad he makes your heart full!!! It's amazing how incredibly bigoted and hateful people can be towards people who are different, and see me as a crazy Artist (yes it is a capital "A" morons), and so funny the usage of the word "they" when referring to creative deep people like me like I'm from another planet or like some bigoted term that people used to refer to minorities as. I capitalize my job title. I think you should as well. Nothing wrong with being an Advertising Director or an Artist!!!! The posters on here don't even realize that the way they act towards others who wear their hearts on their sleeves shows just how much their shallow hardened hearts are shriveled up like a burnt out husk. As I said, I would rather die a thousand times from a broken heart then to never experience the true love and passion that I am able to feel for another soul. I don't sweat what the narrow-minded people have to say, I actually feel sorry for them. Like I said, having your heart full (if you get the double meaning behind that) is the most incredible feeling!!! All the best to you LostSoulMate, you're a rare find. x I love being a right-sided brain type. Creative juices flow!!!!! I don't know what I would do in my life without music, art, and best of all a good conversation with someone who doesn't judge!!! Cape, keep posting. I am so glad you came back. Peace, hope and brightness to you!!!!
GorillaTheater Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 well I hope you didn't hurt yourself, much In all honesty, have you nothing better to do than stalk threads looking to pounce like a sad troll? I find it interesting that you're perfectly willing, despite your apparent narcissism, to engage us in hurling insults back and forth. I find that to be a likeable quality. And somewhat arousing. But enough of me. What is it you were hoping to find, specifically? Pretend like we're starting fresh, that the previous 50-odd posts never happened. What advice do you seek? Is there a specific question?
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Much peace and happiness to you as well LostSoulMate. Funnily enough I just realized that the original name of my thread is the same name as your handle! LOL Great minds think alike, it's true. I couldn't agree more, my world would not be worth living if I didn't have Art, Music, and deep understanding with intelligent open-minded like-minded people! What a dark world we would live in without creative folks, and I mean that literally, coming out of the dark ages to the Renaissance, from artists to inventors to writers to poets to chefs to designers to architects, without their creative energy we would still be sitting in caves fighting over scraps of meat with a bone. ;-)
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I find it interesting that you're perfectly willing, despite your apparent narcissism, to engage us in hurling insults back and forth. I find that to be a likeable quality. And somewhat arousing. What would you wife of 25 years think of this!!! But enough of me. What is it you were hoping to find, specifically? Pretend like we're starting fresh, that the previous 50-odd posts never happened. What advice do you seek? Is there a specific question? Why should she pretend the thread is fresh. You've expressed your hosility for the OP? Would you take advice from someone who talked to you like you did the OP? I wouldn't. But then I am just a cheater, right?
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 You are right, it is amazing how bigoted you have portrayed yourself to be. I don't know if it is the real you, the ideal you or the ought you. Either way, you have shown yourself to harsh to others who only gave you what you asked for, an opinion. You felt the same way about LostSoulMate a few posts back. Then she told you she viewed the world with your romantic lens and suddenly she was kind. Strange isn't it how bigoted that appears. And just for the record, I am an Ar-teest as well. When I finish my degree I will take my talents to help troubled children cope with abuse. She you aren't the only person on earth God blessed with deep emotions, feelings or talents. Also a a minority, your analogy was so far off base...... I never said that, nor have I implied that. I didn't see any posts from LostSoulMate other than the one I replied too. Look not to be funny but why don't you just "eff off" I'm so sick of your sermon beating approach, if you don't like what I have to say, don't post on my thread and go and help those poor kiddies with your amazing gift.
GorillaTheater Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 What would you wife of 25 years think of this!!! Beats looking at porn, I suppose. Why should she pretend the thread is fresh. You've expressed your hosility for the OP? Would you take advice from someone who talked to you like you did the OP? I wouldn't. But then I am just a cheater, right? Don't look at me, I don't think I've ever given you a hard time about being a cheater, but correct me if I'm wrong. But I imagine you're practically giddy at having found an ally. But look at my first post on this thread, the one that was summarily rejected ("you have issues") and tell me where I'm wrong.
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 You are right, it is amazing how bigoted you have portrayed yourself to be. IMO you perceived her to be this way, she didn't tell you anything like that. You felt the same way about LostSoulMate a few posts back. Then she told you she viewed the world with your romantic lens and suddenly she was kind. Strange isn't it how bigoted that appears. You're confused. Must be thinking of someone else.... And just for the record, I am an Ar-teest as well. When I finish my degree I will take my talents to help troubled children cope with abuse. She you aren't the only person on earth God blessed with deep emotions, feelings or talents. Also a a minority, your analogy was so far off base...... IMO her analogy was right on. Go back and re-read what the other posters had to say. Nothing but lashings IMO!!!! She has every right to be confused and ask for help, but what she got was other people lashing out at her. But IMO that is all that you get around here sometimes. Everyone puts there pants on the same way.... some just wear them better than others.
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 imo you perceived her to be this way, she didn't tell you anything like that. Your confused. Must be thinking of someone else.... Exactly. Imo her analogy was right on. Go back and re-read what the other posters had to say. Nothing but lashings imo!!!! Right again! She has every right to be confused and ask for help, but what she got was other people lashing out at her. But imo that is all that you get around here sometimes. Ditto!!! Everyone puts there pants on the same way.... Some just wear them better than others. well said! Lol!
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 And apparently some of us don't wear them at all. What's wrong with my birthday suit. I got it from GOD.
Author capecod Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Alrighty. Well I've had enough fun for one day. Thanks again LostSoulMate for being the open-minded generous and loving deep person you are and for sharing that with me. You're a rare find. Much love to you. x I don't care what becomes of this thread as I won't be back to this narrow-minded little backwater virtual village anytime soon. It's been... interesting.
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Good luck with your lostsoulmate! I would advise you to get out of your marriage first. I opened a huge can of worms not doing just that. Peace, hope and brightness!!!!
lostsoulmate Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I have earned the right to be here and say what I want as long as I don't cross the line. Bent... Really, earned the right. So now you have to earn the right to be here?
lonelyandfrustrated Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 What's wrong with my birthday suit. I got it from GOD. And you defiled it with adultery. And wouldn't ya know? I'm a creative type, too. But if I started corresponding with my peeps calling myself a Writer instead of a writer, they'd call me an asshat. Or ask if my CapsLk was stuck, lol. I'm glad cape found her soul mate here, the two of them can go round destroying lives in the name of destiny. Enjoy yourselves, girls. Happy little homewreckers.
lostsoulmate Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 I don't know, but the OP made it seem that I shouldn't voice my opinion just because she didn't like the way I said it. When in fact you said the same thing to her as we all had. I don't have to temper my opinion, and I gave her no reason to be crappy in her responses. Go back and read them if you like. My point was she should take her own advice and well....you know. Perhaps the tone of the other posters had her throw her defenses up. I know I have had to shield myself sometimes here. But telling her you have the right to be here because you have posted more than she, isn't going to help.
lostsoulmate Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 And you defiled it with adultery. You have to be married to be an adulterer. Enjoy yourselves, girls. Happy little homewreckers. Is this type of name calling really necessary? I hated junior high, I don't want to go back there.
GorillaTheater Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 lostsoulmate, you were right to call me on the "arousing" comment. It was innapropriate and disrespectful to my wife. I was in "attack" mode at that point, and was using one of my more dispicable tactics.
lostsoulmate Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 lostsoulmate, you were right to call me on the "arousing" comment. It was innapropriate and disrespectful to my wife. I was in "attack" mode at that point, and was using one of my more dispicable tactics. It is not me you need to apologize to. You are a good man to recognize it was inappropriate and an even better man for recognizing why.
Aloros Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Oh goodness. I've been reading this thread with my hands partially covering my eyes, as one does at a horror movie. This is painful. I don't normally swing into the fray, but capecod...yikes! Let's see. You have every right to be unhappy. Your husband hasn't been intimate with you in two years. Why? Have you spoken to him about this? Have you thought about counseling? Are you interested in saving your relationship with him? How did you feel with him when you first were married? Are you certain that there is no chance of recapturing this feeling? Let's not mince words. You are emotionally cheating on your husband. It doesn't make you a bad person, but it makes you a person who is making a poor decision from a moral standpoint. I know how it is to be with someone and yet want to be with someone else. But if this is what you really want - to be with your ex - you need to cut ties with your husband first. It is possible to be in this situation and to act with integrity. If you leave your husband to be with your ex, there is a possibility you will regret your decision. A life lived with integrity is not without risk. But you cannot have your cake and eat it too. This is as compassionately as I can word it. P.S. Please please please lay off on all the "Artist" stuff. I don't mean to offend, but I work professionally as an "Artist" as well. Just because someone disagrees with you or has a different world-view doesn't mean that you are on a different "plane", that they are without passion, that they are a "corpse", etc. It makes you look unreasonable and holier-than-thou. Frankly, I find it indirectly embarrassing. There is something to be said for having one's head in the clouds...and yet having one's feet firmly on the ground!
theycallmeprincess Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 When she told be to shut the eff up is when I said my posts outnumber her's, so if she wanted someone to shut the eff up, maybe it should be her. I was here long before she came and will be here long after. That's all. When she was so nasty to everyone, including people who had actually been in her shoes and ended up cheating. I didn't believe she really wanted help. She was only here for entertainment. Oh, but Bent, she was just being honest, without all the fluff.
Athena Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 And if you could actually read and comprehend, you would have by osmosis seen that I've stated now 5 times that I've no intention to cheat, I'm talking about a feeling inside and not a physical action. Just want to point out that the seed of thought planted in your mind is what leads to the action later on... that's how it all starts.
manugeorge Posted April 17, 2009 Posted April 17, 2009 Oy!, let the dogs back in people. Capecod, why are you with your husband? You don't have children together so that makes your situation significantly less complicated. What is stopping you from seeking a divorce and going back to your long lost love now that you know the feeling between you two is mutual? Especially if this is something you have been wishing for all this while. It doesn't sound to me like a flippant crush to just brush off and frankly, if I were your husband, I would rather you end it and leave me than sit there day in day out fantasizing about some other dude. I'm sure he would rather have all of you than half of you. Unlike many people here, I won't knock your daydreaming, it's your internal alarm system telling you something is off and you need to address it. It may very well include ending your journey with your current husband and going to find what you think will fufil you better. Whether or not this lost love is it, nobody knows and it really doesn't matter at the end of the day--life is not nearly that certain. If you go back to him and it all blows up in your face, whatever, at least you tried instead of sitting there, wallowing in a river of "what ifs"
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