gavinus Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Basically my ex took her anger out on me for 3 years. After breaking up for 11 weeks, she rang me and told me she wants to meet up. After speaking on the phone twice to me, she got angry when I asked the reason for meeting up on Saturday. I explained I was trying to not get mixed messages etc, She told me she was curious to see how we would get on, on Saturday. She then said she was having doubts about meeting up. She then told me I had foiled her attempts to study the previous night (we spoke for 3 hours) and by speaking on the phone for 15 minutes tonight I had ruined her study again. She then told me what would make her happy now was to not speak to me, we hung up. (She said terrible things to me when she dumped me, I think her attitude kinda stinks considering most people would never speak to her again after what she said) I had been in NC and had not responded to her for about 5 weeks. Should I meet her?, what does she want from me? thanks in advance
LostFocus Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Why is she blaming you not being able to study? She could have hung up. She is still blaming you for things and you aren't even together. I know you care for her but come on.. when are you going to stop being her scape goat. She always took her anger out on you. Why would you even want to be friends with someone like that? Ultimately, you can go hang out with her if you want but I wouldn't. I get the feeling that she just wants to know if you still care about her. She is simply probing for information to see why you haven't called her. Now that she knows she no longer sure if she wants to hang out. Keep busy and go out with your pals.
Author gavinus Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 yeah life is too short for drama thats for sure
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Your holding onto hope gavinus when its just not worth it at best she will string you along and keep taking her anger out on you. Which will continue to destroy whats left of your self esteem after 3 years its prob not allot left already no offense. Plus from reading a few of your older posts shes also a tad violent? Breaking your stuff I'm sorry but shes a manipulative control freak with major anger issues. I know it hurts but you need to move on for your own sanity.. You want to know what she wants with her texts? She wants to hurt you again and make you feel like **** simple! so she can make herself feel better in the end people like that are sick. So much so that they are past the help of those who love them they need professional help...
Paralyzed Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 She sounds a little like my ex. She abused me emotionally. I broke up with her, she drunk dialed me and I made the mistake of meeting up with her. When we got back to my place she said things that i don't think I will ever forgive. After going from overly affectionate to distant over the next 2 days, I finally brought up the things she had said. She basically broke up with me on the spot. Fast forward a few days and she was trying to start a convo with me on facebook chat. I ignored her and she deleted me. Women like my ex and yours are all about control. Wanting control, needing control. Your ex is like mine. She thinks she can pick up the phone and have you whenever she wants. If you dont play into her game she will hate you. They are both nuts.
Lucky_One Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I don't know your background story, but why would you WANT to meet with her? She sounds toxic.
Author gavinus Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 further to add to the post, she called me back 5 minutes later. She then started talking stating she had never asked me to care for her, she had never asked me to help her, etc I hung up in her ear. I waited 10 minutes and called her back , she said thanks for calling and what she likes about me is my resilience for not giving up on her, then she acted really nice. She said if I had hopes of us meeting with the aim of getting back together etc I would be disappointed, she then said we seem to have changed she wants to meet to see if we can have a connection. I have gotten 4 hours sleep. I feel pretty bad, I want to cancel via text, I think if I see her it will hurt me a lot, I must be strong. I think I am starting to lose my mind....thanks heaps
fofiffs Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Don't do it, it'll just bring back so many painful memories. After the things she had said to you, I don't think its worth it. Its best to move on. Go out and date. I know, because I went out last night and met me a lovely woman. I completely forgot about my ex the whole time we talked.
Author gavinus Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 good for you for meeting a lovely woman!! I think you are right.
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