rhino123 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Here is the story. I met this girl at work and she was all over me but i did not have much interest in her for a while. That soon changed and i asked her out one night and we went on a date. Soon after being on the date she started talking about her ex who she was still not over and just came out of a two year relationship with. She had left him for the third time since he was such a control freak. She admitted to me that she is real bad in relationships and had actually cheated on him and thats why he was like that. I completely fell for her but was only with her for two weeks and me and her took things way to fast from the beginning. I ended up having sex with her and loosing my virginity to her one night. I was on top of the world and thought that she was happy with me. Two days later she says that she still has feelings for her ex and just wants to be a friend for a while and choose between us. Today about three days later she has finally admitted to me what she wants. She told me that i made her happy and was the nicest guy that she had ever been with but she knows what she should do and is going back to her ex. I have been completely depressed and i cannot stop thinking about her. Nobody has ever hurt me or got to me as much as she has. Now i am wishing i would have stayed away from the beginning but i like her sooooo much. I could just be myself around her and tell her whatever. She is cute and funny and made me feel good about myself. Now i am in extreme depression and i don't know what to do. If only she knew how much more i cared about her than the douche that she is going back to for the THIRD time. I know i am better looking than the guy and i respect her much more. He actually called her while we were together saying that he needs her body. What kind of ******* a**hole does that. I don't know why she wants to go back to a fat guy with a beer belly that disrespects her. last night she said that he is more spontaneous than me and will do random stuff with her to make her happy and i got very irritated and told her well you never gave me a chance. WTF should i do i still work with her and i am going to go insane.
Mahatma Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 While I totally understand you... let go. I REALLY feel bad for you though. Losing your virginity to someone, if you were like me, is a big deal. I will always be emotionally attached my current girlfriend, with whom I lost mine to. You gotta just try your best to move on and let her be with some scum bag.
colosseum Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 Man I'm really sorry to hear that. But you have to move on, because you're better than this; there is no other option. You hurt, and you learn, and you move on. Accept that it's going to hurt for a while, knowing that you'll be alright in the end. Explore your hobbies, do your work, go to the gym, hang out with friends, go out and meet people, keep yourself busy. Know that you'll think about her, but try not to lose your time over it. There are 7 billion people out there, more than half of whom are women. I know losing your virginity to the girl is a big deal--I would know--but I assure you this isn't the only woman of your life. This isn't your loss, but her's. You're better than this, and you'll find a woman that will treat you right. Learn from this, keep your head up, and stick with it. You will prevail, because we've all been there before. I feel for you though, but I know you can stick through this ugliness. But you must, and can, move on.
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