unsureofwhatsahead Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hello everyone, Just wanted to say that I appreciate all the insight this site has towards relationships, it's been very helpful and that's why everyone loves it here. I am 23 and have been dating a very beautiful, funny, and charming 19 year old I met in University. I want to preface everything by saying that I know I am incredibly lucky. My girlfriend was a virgin when we met, and has had relatively tame sexual experiences with three other guys. All of them are exes in some capacity (e.g. dating, boyfriend.) I knew she had given oral to one of them because when she first gave me oral, she mentioned how she didn't used to swallow (only once but she does for me every time ) ANYWAY, I digress. I knew she had dated another guy before this one, and so assumed that there was some activity. I also know she has made out with some others, but that doesn't bother me at all. We had a joking around conversation where we joked about our pasts and she brought up that she has been with three guys in the past. I was a little surprised because I knew of the two exes, but the third was a mystery to me. I found out that she only gave her ex head, and then had handjobs with the other two guys. I know this is an innocent past, but one part of it is bothering me. All along I thought she had only been with two guys in the capacity to see their penis. Finding out about the third has seemed to dramatically change my mindset and feelings, at least temporarily. She was always my innocent baby to me, and I was able to get over the fact she had a past with these two. I wasn't happy, obviously, I don't think any guy enjoys thinking about their baby having someone else in their mouth, but I understand it was a relationship. The other guy doesn't really bug me because it was just a handjob, I knew he was one of her exes, and I can kinda call it even since I hooked up with a girl he liked before he liked her and before I was with my girlfriend. That's not nice or mature I know, but hey, it helps. But this third one I just found out about, this is driving me nuts. I hate picturing my girlfriend being intimate enough to touch another man like that, to bring pleasure to his parts like that. I know that she probably doesn't think about it that often and to her this relationship is what is new and important, but I can't stop thinking about these other guys getting pleasure from my girl. I know she won't cheat, I know she's not going anywhere. It's just when I close my eyes, I see the guys faces in pleasure as she's either jerking them off or sucking the one guy off and it kills me. Oral sex used to be one of my favorite things, but it doesn't feel special anymore, doesn't have the same excitement because I feel like she's "been there, done that" and when I'm feeling that pleasure, I just think about how another guy has felt the same feeling. Any ideas to cope with the issue? Thanks in advance!
Mahatma Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Simple jealousy. All of my girlfriend's firsts are with me. However, she was fingered once by another guy in a past relationship. Just do not think about it...
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