jessicasilver Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 i feel so depressed im in soo much mental pain! my confidence level is the lowest it has ever been! i just feel like theres nothing left to look forward for in my life! my ex dumped me almost 2months ago, he told me he still loved me but we couldnt be... (he never gave me a valid reason). i begged for him to come back to me but he just continued hurting me so i gave up and i decided to go NO CONTACT! after 2 weeks of no contact he eventually contacted me on msn telling me how he thinks i looked nice in my new pictures! i eventually moved on and felt that i was ok to talk to him again as we were eachothers bestfriends when we were together i didnt want to lose him as a friend too. i decided to start talking to him again as a friend, he rang me last night and told me how his so happy and his life is so good and his met loads of new people, i had hope that maybe he would regret his decision which would have given me some form of closure but he obviously doesnt which hurts i was over him and now he texts and calls me more and i hear stuff that i dont wnt to hear... him talking about how his going to have girls that i presum are his friends over his house when his parents go on holiday etc!!! i just feel like crying all the time! plus my sister saw him today waiting at the bus stop and i had these thoughts in my head that he was going to met another girl! i dont know what to do one minute im over him next minute his all i can think about! i need help i have tried dating other guys but there all rebounds and i dont seem to gel with them as much as i did with my ex! this is hell.. please help me
Darkness7 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hi, I'm really sorry to hear you are going through so much pain at the moment! I think the best thing for you to do would be going NC with him as hard as it is. YOU need time to heal and you need to do what's best for YOU right now and nothing positive is gonna happen if you're still in contact with him. It sounds like he is confused at the moment and doesn't know what he wants (been in the same situation with my ex fiancee) and you need to give him some time to sort out his thoughts and feelings as well. It's best you drop off the face of the earth to distance yourself emotionally from the relationship and the break-up. It is also the best way to get him back if that's what you want. You need to give him a chance to miss you and he won't be able to see what life is like without you if you're still constantly 'there.' Don't text him, don't phone, don't chat, etc. and see what happens, see if he contacts you then and then you decide whether you maintain NC or whether you ping back. Best of luck!
nsundram Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Babe, I know exactly how you feel. When you lose somebody you love, you lose apart of your life, you lose apart of yourself. Time will heal your wounds, don't give up on him, but don't put your life on hold either. Men don't want to hang around a miserable women, they don't understand why we get so cut up and depressed and they feel like they have to run away from it. If he see's you living your life (I know that's easier said than done) then only good can come from it, he will either want you back, or someone else will want you! Chances are that he just needs time to realise that he needs you and wants you back, Men are a little slow when it comes to relationships, so he needs time to sort out what's best for him. Don't worry sweetie, he hasn't forgot you, but let him know that you are having a good time too! Hang out with him as often as you can, try and seem like your not hurting, be happy and bubbly, men love a girl who can smile...so let him see what he is missing out on, the more time he spends with you the more time he has to realise that you're the one he wants! Hope you feel better in time baby x
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