Charmaine_Champagne Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 i'll try to keep this short.. was with ex mostly solidly for 6 years, first loves, he was obsessively in love with me, then broke up in feb- he ignored me until i took the hint- still to this day i don't know if he cheated or was in some kind of trouble and couldn't face me or whether ignoring me was a sick game to make me chase him, i just don't know, but anyway he ignored me on valentines and messed me around, wouldn't answer my pleas of what was wrong so i went NC, been 2months now and i've only had 2 messages from him both in march one that was blank! and another that just said ''howcome i haven't heard from you?'' so firstly any thoughts on that guys?? second question, his birthday is next week and i am planning on ignoring it which i feel is the right thing to do.. my question is will this bother him? will he notice, will it hurt?? i mean we were together a long time, spent all his other birthdays together, always sent him little cards, funny things, presents, etc so i feel that he will think of me on his birthday, i guess i just want to know will this hit home to him if i ignore him or will it drive him further away? and am i doing the right thing to ignore his birthday.. will he even expect to hear from me on his bday? how he broke up with me was so cruel, meant it was harder to move on as i was in limbo for weeks wondering were we actually broken up as he never officially dumped me. i miss him but i know i have to keep up NC but part of me wants to break it to ask him what the hell was happening back in feb.. what should i do and what do u guys make of the msgs he sent me last month?
jessicasilver Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 i know you miss him and you probably still love him because i am going through the exact same thing and its hell! the only thing is that i agreed to be his friend and its the biggest mistake i've made!! i hear him talking about other girls and how happy he is without me and it hurts. your better off not knowing... my advice would be to ignore his birthday pretend its just another day, he clearly had no decency to break up with you and has been such a coward about it, he doesnt deserve anything from you, not even a happy birthday! dont contact him at all and dont ever think that not contacting him might make him miss you, just fully move on with your life!!!
kizik Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 CC, my ex just had her birthday, and it was a hard day for me. I thought about her a lot, and we'd been broken up like 9 months already. The point is that sometimes you can't help it. Don't text him and don't expect a text from him. Your R is over, and you have to accept it. I'm sorry for your loss. It's like a death - although sometimes, a death is easier. * Our words can never heal but maybe help as you make sense of the new world around you You're afraid but fear fades to a new and changing truth.
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