White Flower Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Honestly, I think it's because you're short. Because you have a physical disadvantage in the dating world, fat women, who are also at a disadvantage think you're in their league. This isn't my personal opinion, as I don't have a problem with short guys but to many people fat chick=short guy. You might be on to something. I was about 20-30 lbs over weight when I married my ex and he was short. I never thought of it that way. Actually, I thought it was me who was graciously overlooking his lack of height, not me thinking this short guy was in my league because I was heavier. But you could be right. Mr. DM is also right. ExMM absolutely adored larger women and chased them around a lot. His W was heavier when they M and she got very thin which I'm sure disappointed him. It takes all kinds to make the world go round but he would agree with you Mr. DM, fat chicks rule and they're nice besides. kizik, You might want to not think of ANY girls as snooty bitches. Expect sweetness from a thin girl and you just might get it. It's impossible for all thin girls to be snooty bitches. Try to make yourself more mentally attracted to a thin girl. You just may be superimposing an attitude on someone you THINK is snooty but may very well be wonderful.
White Flower Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 how old are you and what is your dating history, KiziK? Especially as you get a few years out of college the supply of really in shape women diminish. I seem to attract 200+lb. women. I agree that being too nice to them will draw them in being that they're not used to it. If they've got a hot friend you can be like, oh, I think your friend is so cute. That might help them get the picture. You can act oblivious to their advances and hopefully not be the A-hole shallow guy. I haven't had to try it yet, this is just advice from my playa housemate. As far as meeting fitter women, do lots of triathlons this summer. Lots of hot ex XC runners there. They have their ages painted on their calves and there's usually a barbeque afterwards. I know a lot about bikes so there is a common interest, something to talk about. Downside is that usually they are taken.All good advice but I wonder where this misnomer is coming from. Heavy chicks get treated nicely all the time and get their groove on as well. Stop feeling so sorry for them.
Jaytb Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I seem to attract 200+lb. women. I agree that being too nice to them will draw them in being that they're not used to it. Are people really so mean to them that anyone being friendly is interpreted as interest? It's one thing to not date someone, it's quite another to be outright mean to them. If they've got a hot friend you can be like, oh, I think your friend is so cute. That might help them get the picture. You can act oblivious to their advances and hopefully not be the A-hole shallow guy.I think they'll still view you as the A-hole though. I've read plenty on heavier women going out with friends and detesting the men hitting on their hot friends. As far as meeting fitter women, do lots of triathlons this summer. Lots of hot ex XC runners there. They have their ages painted on their calves and there's usually a barbeque afterwards. I know a lot about bikes so there is a common interest, something to talk about. Downside is that usually they are taken. Do triathlons, go to the gym, go hiking, there should be plenty of ways to find "fit" women.
Jaytb Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Honestly, I think it's because you're short. Because you have a physical disadvantage in the dating world, fat women, who are also at a disadvantage think you're in their league. This isn't my personal opinion, as I don't have a problem with short guys but to many people fat chick=short guy. I wonder if they're doing themselves a disservice by dating short guys. I mean, is a tall fat guy worse than a short skinny guy? (well actually it won't matter at all for some people) It's seems kind of odd actually. The girl will be able to pick up the guy
angie2443 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 How skinny are you? I've noticed that many skinny guys are hooked up with plumper girls. Maybe they're trying to balance themselves out. If you don't this, maybe you should build yourself up by working out or gaining wait.
quankanne Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 OP, these so-called "heavy girls" are probably attracted to your personality, and figure they can help get your skinny ass beefed up, should they date you. Its as big a challenge as trying to reform a rake, so to speak. not sure what the big deal is about heavy women being unattractive, then again, I never bought into the weight thing. I don't give a rat's ass that I'm obese ... but I *do* care that my health problems are out of control and therefore am doing something to take care of that. Everyone looks the same in the dark, and personality is the only thing that will set you apart. for the record, 15-20 pounds overweight is not "fat." I weigh twice what I did as a 15-yoa high school freshman ... THAT is fat. 15-20 pounds on the average ET-looking girl today is actually HEALTHY LOOKING. then again, I'm looking at it from this end of 40 where I believe a woman shouldn't be so wrapped up in unrealistic ideals of womanhood. The most beautiful woman is the one who is confident in herself ... not the plucked chicken who abuses herself to look like a starving refugee because that's what she's told to do by society to be considered "acceptible" ...
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 not the plucked chicken who abuses herself to look like a starving refugee because that's what she's told to do by society to be considered "acceptible" ...Hey, hey, hey, leave us plucked chickens alone! We didn't do nuffink!
Author kizik Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 I appreciate everyone's responses. The minute I said "fat" I knew I was going to offend some people... not on purpose. Anyway, basically what I hear everyone saying is that short guys are viewed with the same kind of stigma? or unattractiveness or something... that overweight girls are. I dunno. Unlike weight, though, height can't be helped. Also, being overweight is a sign of disrespect for the self, which is a turn-off.
burning 4 revenge Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hey, hey, hey, leave us plucked chickens alone! We didn't do nuffink! Is Alpha's cockney dialect rubbing off on you
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Is Alpha's cockney dialect rubbing off on you Indeed!
Author kizik Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Someone's c*ck-(ney) is rubbing on whom?
clv0116 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Well I guess fat chicks need love too. I've been told they are like mopeds, sort of fun to ride as long as no one finds out about it.
Citizen Erased Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hmn I seem to recall being told that me thinking if I were 20 pounds overweight I'd attract no attention was just madness. Call them fat chicks and I can guarantee they won't be a problem anymore.
BlueEyedGirl Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I would never date a guy that's skinnier than me. I like to feel small and feminine so I usually go for tall, average to muscly men. I don't get why fat girls would like you. I mean do they enjoy feeling even more gigantic?
ratzskinakie Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 It's kind of a sad deal, I used to find myself in this situation often. I'd used to just be friendly and nice with overweight (especially obese) girls, than many times I'd notice they fall for me, but then they easily get emotionally hurt when I don't pursue them, so now I just usually avoid them if they lack confidence or else they may latch their emotions to me like leeches once I start making conversation with them. When it comes to confident overweight girls i'm usually happy being friends with them or even willing to date them because I can be myself without worring about hurting their feelings and they don't point fingers or blame others for their emotions and stuff. I'm a short guy myself, if you're confident enough, many girls will overlook pass height, especially if they arn't neccassarly looking for a guy to settle down with. I know for some it's the political right thing the say or idealistic thing to believe for many not overlook a fat girl cause of her weight (which there is some truth to it, personality does help), but many guys as myself just simply prefer fit girls. I just can't force myself to like the color yellow if I sincerely and honestly don't desire that color no matter how much someone else believes it's unacceptable and unethical for me not to like yellow. However, there are a lot of guys out there who like yellow. Just the truth.
BlueEyedGirl Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I get you guys. Fat rolls ARE unattractive. I still see so many really overweight and obese women with boyfriends or husbands. It always makes me wonder how do their men "get it up" in the bedroom with them? I mean those women must look much worse without clothes on. I know this is not very politically correct, but that's how I think
voldigicam Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 My experience in retail suggests that being open and friendly attracts various kinds of attention across the board. If you're sensitive to being hit on by certain types, maybe you notice that. Some people don't like anyone. Some fellows will eventually call me up just to say how much they appreciate my careful attention, open discussion, and ultimately friendship. Some customers take vacations and hang out here. In women, the really slim busy ones or professionals, folks who work out, seem mostly all about business. I do notice post 30s women in any shape seem more interested in chatting. And I notice heavier girls in their 20s really perk up when treated nicely. The most obviously receptive category. So maybe there's something to heavier girls responding to attention. They tend to get shy flirty. I've taken a couple up on the invitation a bit and discover that the shy heavier types kissed extremely well and were very patient and attentive lovers. As opposed to the overly efficient exercise waifs. I haven't done a full press research program and won't, especially since my SO seems to be functioning again. Wonder how to really get good data?
39388 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Another anti overweight women thread. I'm tired of many of the generalizations. I hope to find a great wife eventually and she needs to be compatible with me in many ways. I find things like honesty, being a good person inside, intelligence and a nice smile far higher on my list than how much they weigh. Sure I have to be attracted to her, but I find the majority of women attractive. I've been attracted to women of many different sizes. According to many, there must be something wrong with me. Losing weight is not easy and some people have very slow metabolisms. If it was so easy, I guarantee you people would be much thinner.
Sam Spade Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Buy a lot of boxes of P90X fitness + diet program at a steep discount, and every time a fat girl expresses interest in you, give her the box and tell her to call you in 3 months ! I'm dead serious!
Sam Spade Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I get you guys. Fat rolls ARE unattractive. I still see so many really overweight and obese women with boyfriends or husbands. It always makes me wonder how do their men "get it up" in the bedroom with them? I mean those women must look much worse without clothes on. I know this is not very politically correct, but that's how I think I'd say odds are there is no sex at all . On the other hand, at least something cozy to snuggle to (into:eek:?) in a cold winter night . Some curves are fine, but actual fatness really sets you back in all aspects of life, unless you're otherwise exceptional . It seems to me that to live like a fat person is to live in a parallel universe - different dating/aquaintance/friedship pool, different clothing choices, different health problems, different life style, everything differen. I certainly don't pick my friends based on weight , but nobody in my professional and personal circles is overweight.
39388 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I'd say odds are there is no sex at all . On the other hand, at least something cozy to snuggle to (into:eek:?) in a cold winter night . Some curves are fine, but actual fatness really sets you back in all aspects of life, unless you're otherwise exceptional . It seems to me that to live like a fat person is to live in a parallel universe - different dating/aquaintance/friedship pool, different clothing choices, different health problems, different life style, everything differen. I certainly don't pick my friends based on weight , but nobody in my professional and personal circles is overweight. You are very judgemental against overweight women, yet *nobody* you know is overweight. Some of my good friends and a few family members are overweight. I'd bet they would love your post. :rolleyes:
loveslife Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I've been overweight and I have to say that being an overweight girl is probably the biggest sin you can commit in today's society. It puts you at the bottom of the social spectrum totem pole! I find it hard to believe that anybody gets to be very overweight and happy about themselves. There are so many emotional issues that are harder to overcome than just deciding what to put in your mouth. And in my case they had to do with self-esteem issues. I still battle with them today! We all have our issues to deal with and just do the best we can. I wouldn't get too stressed about overweight girls being attracted to you. They're just people. And you can choose to date whomever you want. I think you probably make them feel safe somehow. Whether that's a good thing or not I don't know.
Sam Spade Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 You are very judgemental against overweight women, yet *nobody* you know is overweight. Some of my good friends and a few family members are overweight. I'd bet they would love your post. :rolleyes: Actually, some of them (2) are. Dunno how I missed them the first time around . One is the most undisciplined person ever - her entire life is a ocmplete chaos. The other is one of the coolest awesomest dudes ever. Loing weight will only damage his mojo, but I still hope he does, just because of his health. So, I'm not judging people universally based on weight. This doesn't change the fact that it is universally bad to be fat. Just like there are both great and horrible persons who are smokers, smoking doesn't make you a bad person, but it's still bad. Same with obesity. And, although certainly not to the extent of smoking, it is still a bit offensive to others nevertheless. (And I'm not saying just visually. Try sitting next to an obese person on the airplane ).
39388 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 So, I'm not judging people universally based on weight. This doesn't change the fact that it is universally bad to be fat. You contradict yourself in two consecutive sentences. Same with obesity. And, although certainly not to the extent of smoking, it is still a bit offensive to others nevertheless. (And I'm not saying just visually. Try sitting next to an obese person on the airplane ). Being fat is offensive to others??? Really? So you would be offended by some of my close freiends. The airlines make their seats so small that you will be uncomfortable unless you barely weigh 100 poounds (or pay $1000 for first class). I see more people agree with you than disagree with you in this thread so maybe that's the prevailing attitude today. Just know that there are some who strongly disagree with you.
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