josh2828 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 hey everyone, just wanted to hear some opinions on this. what could be the reason ex's continue to call regularly long after a breakup, especially if she is involved with someone else. my ex and i broke up 3 years ago she has been in a relationship with someone for the past two years. i was the dumper,we were together for 6 years. the first two years i didn't think much of her calling me, just that she needed someone to talk to when she had problems. even though i truly love her, i never really called her or did we ever hang out.For the fact that i knew she had alot of resentment from me leaving, but it was in the best interest of both of us, thats what i thought. the past year she starts calling regularly, after having one to many drinks, but now she just goes on about the past and realizing how pointless all those fights were.that she still loves me, and wants to hang out with me. so now i ask her if she thinks there's a possibility of getting back together, and she says it would never work. so now im confused as hell, why shes calling in the first place? Im thinking of NC for good, plus she has a bf that could hear her problems not me! any advise, thanks!
BCCA Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I think I know whats going on here. You dumped her, she still resents you for that on some level. It would mean the world to her for you to come to her and beg for another chance, only for her to say 'thanks, but no thanks'. Next time she calls, ask her bluntly, 'what do you want from me?". If she says just to talk, tell her thats what her bf is for, and youre not interested. If its anything else, then she can spit it out. If its just 'just to say hi' crap, tell her lose your number. Shes just playing games. I think women view the guys that dumped them as a challenge.
CaliGuy Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I think I know whats going on here. You dumped her, she still resents you for that on some level. It would mean the world to her for you to come to her and beg for another chance, only for her to say 'thanks, but no thanks'. Next time she calls, ask her bluntly, 'what do you want from me?". If she says just to talk, tell her thats what her bf is for, and youre not interested. If its anything else, then she can spit it out. If its just 'just to say hi' crap, tell her lose your number. Shes just playing games. I think women view the guys that dumped them as a challenge. Excellent advice BCCA.
Sunset_Cowgirl Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Hey guys! Please refrain from throwing blunt objects at my head before I get a running start! LOL Let me start by saying BCCA you may very well be hitting this one on the nose! The fact that she is drinking and with another man ther when she does this doesn't put her in a very good light. Sounds like she isn't very happy with how her life is going. On the other hand...she might also love him sincerely, miss him terribly, wish they were together, but is afraid of being hurt again. So she spouts off about her feelings after a few shots of liquid b***s and protects her pride and her heart by saying it wouldn't work when he asks because that would make her vunerable. NO ONE likes getting thier chops busted! Especially not a second time! I say call her out on it. When Tipsy rings your bell and starts talking about this again, cut her off by saying "I'm really busy right now. Call me when you're sober." Chances are she won't call again and if she does she suddenly won't remember the conversation (which is bs cause she's calling, right?). If she does remember ask her straight out what her purpose is for bringing all this stuff up. If she gives you an answer you don't like then tell her to go take a long walk off a short pier. Just for future reference (b4 you throw stuff), not all women think like that. I speak solely for myself when I say I could never do something so idiotic! If I can't say it to you sober, I'm certainly am not going to make a complete a** outta myself drunk dialing! LOL Ok! I'm running now!!!!
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