clare.harry Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I split with my boyfriend of 2yrs nearly 3 months ago, he said he didnt think he could make me happy anymore(in other words he wasnt happy anymore) Ever since ive been trying to do all the typical things they tell you to to help yourself move on. Ive lost 3 stone, changed my hair, thrown myself into my uni work spent loads of time with family and friends and also made new friends along the way. My ex and i had minimal contact at first he text me on my birthday and valentines day but that was ab out it and i was the same. Over the last month or so its been pretty regular. Hes very honest?? in the texts saying he misses me, hes happy that i 'seem' so happy, he says he doesnt want to see me or be my mate because he will want to get back with me if he sees me, he said he hasnt and wont be with anyone else for a very long time because all he thinks about is me and he wants me to know how much he still cares. Sunday night was the first time we saw eachother since we split, it was in a nightclub and he was very funny with me i was really friendly and chatty and he was quite rude really. Then a bloke came up to me and said how pretty i was and could he have my number. My ex went mental and stormed off. I had a text off him saying he couldnt handle it and was so jealous. I told him it was his choice to finish things and ive not heard off him since. Hes never once said he wants to get back together am i reading to much into everything to think he does?
TaraMaiden Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I will tell you what I think. I think he was wooing you to be able to resume a relationship with you - but just not refer to you as 'girlfriend'. That way, if he happens to meet someone else (oh no, he would not just be with you....) he could have said - 'oh but you know, we were not going out with each other'.... Then suddenly another guy shows interest and you respond. he is jealous. he sees that you are attractive to others and available to them. Drat! His plans are foiled! And you don't make things better by telling him he finished it, it was his choice..... I think things are going exactly as they should. begin to live a life of independence. his jealousy is his problem!
Author clare.harry Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Thank you for your reply tara! Youve made me realise that i have to just let things run there course. Im going to go nc and see what happens if hes gets in touch then its ment to happen if not then i have to start living my life for me. I still love him so mjuch and it is so hard, i wouldnt wish this on anybody and im worried that im going to have to experience it again in life. The only thing that confuses me about it all is if he was so unhappy with me to finish it(and we have finished before so i told him this time would be it, there are no third chances) then why text me things like that, if he doesnt want to get back with me or see me why tell me all these things????
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