clare.harry Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I split with my boyfriend of 2yrs nearly 3 months ago, he said he didnt think he could make me happy anymore(in other words he wasnt happy anymore) Ever since ive been trying to do all the typical things they tell you to to help yourself move on. Ive lost 3 stone, changed my hair, thrown myself into my uni work spent loads of time with family and friends and also made new friends along the way. My ex and i had minimal contact at first he text me on my birthday and valentines day but that was ab out it and i was the same. Over the last month or so its been pretty regular. Hes very honest?? in the texts saying he misses me, hes happy that i 'seem' so happy, he says he doesnt want to see me or be my mate because he will want to get back with me if he sees me, he said he hasnt and wont be with anyone else for a very long time because all he thinks about is me and he wants me to know how much he still cares. Sunday night was the first time we saw eachother since we split, it was in a nightclub and he was very funny with me i was really friendly and chatty and he was quite rude really. Then a bloke came up to me and said how pretty i was and could he have my number. My ex went mental and stormed off. I had a text off him saying he couldnt handle it and was so jealous. I told him it was his choice to finish things and ive not heard off him since. Hes never once said he wants to get back together am i reading to much into everything to think he does?
Darkness7 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I split with my boyfriend of 2yrs nearly 3 months ago, he said he didnt think he could make me happy anymore(in other words he wasnt happy anymore) Ever since ive been trying to do all the typical things they tell you to to help yourself move on. Ive lost 3 stone, changed my hair, thrown myself into my uni work spent loads of time with family and friends and also made new friends along the way. My ex and i had minimal contact at first he text me on my birthday and valentines day but that was ab out it and i was the same. Over the last month or so its been pretty regular. Hes very honest?? in the texts saying he misses me, hes happy that i 'seem' so happy, he says he doesnt want to see me or be my mate because he will want to get back with me if he sees me, he said he hasnt and wont be with anyone else for a very long time because all he thinks about is me and he wants me to know how much he still cares. Sunday night was the first time we saw eachother since we split, it was in a nightclub and he was very funny with me i was really friendly and chatty and he was quite rude really. Then a bloke came up to me and said how pretty i was and could he have my number. My ex went mental and stormed off. I had a text off him saying he couldnt handle it and was so jealous. I told him it was his choice to finish things and ive not heard off him since. Hes never once said he wants to get back together am i reading to much into everything to think he does? First of all it's a good thing that you've been able to 'get on' with your life like this! Keep up the good work. As for your ex...I think he may not be entirely over you, after all it was quite a long relationship, and even though he broke up with you, it doesn't mean he likes the idea of you with other guys. I don't know if it's a sign that he wants to get back together with you, maybe you can ask him about it? He obviously still has some feelings for you because of his reaction, you wouldn't react like that if you were over someone.
Author clare.harry Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Thank you so much for your reply Darkness, its only through coming on sites like this and reading books that ive been able to be like that, as hard as it i have been through heartbreak before and through keeping down about it and not going out and basically not being able to get myself out of bed on a morning i ended up serverly depressed, this time i decided to do it differently and it is much better but i still can n ot go through a day(or an hr to be honest) without thinking about him. I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy i think it is the worst feeling/time that you can go through in life and it is as if you are grieving after a death. The relationship was hard there was so much love but he was very immature and had finished it before when the commitment got too much this would be our third try and i wish we could try again. I think we both know that were not ment to be even though i would try again because i still love him so much i doubt he would. His behaviour says that he still has feelings for me and misses me but the fact that he has made no action to gt back together or say it to me makes me think that he is heartbroken about it like me but sees that its not the right thing what do you think?
Darkness7 Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Thank you so much for your reply Darkness, its only through coming on sites like this and reading books that ive been able to be like that, as hard as it i have been through heartbreak before and through keeping down about it and not going out and basically not being able to get myself out of bed on a morning i ended up serverly depressed, this time i decided to do it differently and it is much better but i still can n ot go through a day(or an hr to be honest) without thinking about him. I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy i think it is the worst feeling/time that you can go through in life and it is as if you are grieving after a death. The relationship was hard there was so much love but he was very immature and had finished it before when the commitment got too much this would be our third try and i wish we could try again. I think we both know that were not ment to be even though i would try again because i still love him so much i doubt he would. His behaviour says that he still has feelings for me and misses me but the fact that he has made no action to gt back together or say it to me makes me think that he is heartbroken about it like me but sees that its not the right thing what do you think? Yeah I know exactly how you feel about the grieving. I have never felt anything this bad, I get panic attacks and nightmares ever since she left. I think actions speak louder than words here. If he's not making a proper effort, then you need to leave it or wait to see if he will. I don't think that he is only pretending to be heartbroken though. I do think he needs to show you he really wants to be with you again if he means it.
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