purpleknif67 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I started working at my job about three years ago. There is a very attractive, intelligent guy that is my is my superior. He is also younger than me by five years. I've had a crush on him from the very first time I saw him but I put my feelings aside because he was engaged and then he married about a year ago. Last summer/early fall, we started having regular weekly meetings and during one of these meetings I caught him staring at me....intently. It caught me really off guard. When others weren't around he would also stare at me. I didn't know what to do, and pretty much didn't do anything. He would sit next to me in meetings, and would take every opportunity to subtly check me out. When meetings stopped, it was kinda of a relief. I was extremely flattered but emberassed (sp?) as well because I got the feeling that other people could tell that he was taking notice of me. It didn't help that my face would often turn red. I can't understand how such a shy person can be so forward. Anyway, after seven months of this stuff happening, I recently I talked to a work friend about this situation. I'm unsure whether she said anything to him at all, but lately he seems very cold and mean to me. Here is the funny thing about all of this. I actually feel relieved. I never did anything with him, in a way I still like him, and I have never confronted him about anything. I'm hoping that he is just having a rough patch with something totally unrelated, but why do I feel empowered? I really thought he was a nice guy, but do nice guys cheat, or maybe, worse yet, he just gave the impression of being nice. How can someone be so blatant, when everyone knows they are married and for such a short time?
Cherished Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Well I think you might have an active imagination. You are saying he was blatant because he was supposedly looking at you at meetings. You are saying there is a problem that he is a married man. He has never made advances toward you, nor asked you out. It is therefore you who has the problem, especially since you told a coworker. Now she has told him and he is completely ignoring you so you get the picture that nothing was ever there in the first place. There's nothing else to discuss. It is clear that had you weren't imagining his interest, and he made an actual advance toward you, you wouldn't have turned him down and infact would have welcomed an affair. Something to think about. HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. NOW LET IT GO AND GET OVER YOURSELF.
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