Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I need a little bit of advice...I met this guy about a year ago, things were going real well, but he was a little overbearing, wanting to spend alot of time talking, together, etc...I was very busy and I didnt have the time, nor did I want to spend that amount of time together for various reasons. We ended up being FWB and it was wonderful. He was always a nice friend to me, he was there anytime I needed him, always caring and nice, we got along great. I really didnt know what I wanted, but it got to the point where I wanted more than sex, and instead of telling him this I ran and told him I didnt want to talk anymore, I was really starting to like him. I met another guy that seemed to want a relationship and we dated for 8 months and broke up about 4 months ago(very rocky). Well, me and the FWB guy ended up texting again and some phone calls, completely neutral and as friends. He really is just a nice friend, we have no issues, drama, NOTHING. He knows the situation of my ex and I know he has dated some girls also. So, we started to talk about some intimiate moments and things went from there, etc...He even asked me to meet him out, but I declined for a couple reasons.I told him he could come over this weekend and chill and watch a movie... He asked to come over and bring a movie, also a few months back but I said no b/c things were iffy with my now ex BF. So, at this point do you think thats all he wants is sex from me? Its obvious to me he is going to stay a nice friend....but I dont want just sex and Im not soo sure I want a relationship....any advice?
gjack Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 If you don't want sex and you aren't sure you want a relationship then why would you pursue this guy? It seems to me like you should set some boundaries and start out as F without B. If he's as in to you as you suggest, he'll understand. If not it's better to know now. I had a similar situation with a woman where we knew the "B" part worked VERY well from past experience. We got together recently for a nice dinner together as friends but abstained from the "B" part because neither of us were ready for a relationship together nor were we comfortable as FWBs anymore.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Well, Im not saying he's THAT into me...Im saying we have stayed in contact as friends for a year and things are very kool with us. I wouldnt mind hanging out with him as a friend, but I think maybe he wants the sex part...I guess thats what I was asking.
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