crazyrhythms Posted October 16, 2003 Posted October 16, 2003 Hey people, I'm sure this subject has been covered many times before and youll find it a drag to read over again - but I did use the search function on the forums and couldnt find anything that helped. Just need a little honest advice... Ive been getting very close to a girl over the last four or so months, and I'm fairly sure our feelings are mutual! The only minor problem I have is the pictures of her ex's... I know shes still very good friends with both of them and sees/speaks to them regularly which I can accept...and I wouldnt mind about these pictures, its just there up in her room...on her shelves....desk.....and what really gets me.....by her bedside to look at when shes in bed! I know shes the type of girl that has pictures of her friends, family up in a big collage on her wall and things like that....but these pictures are seperated from all of those and of her in happier days with them.... I just find it a bit uncomfortable to see a pic of her and her ex locked in arms kissing on a sofa by her bed - it hurts more than anything else! Its not so much jealousy, but that i'm leaving the area I live permanently in a few weeks and everything back where I live will move on without me...this is inevitable and something i've got no problems with on the grand scheme of things. But I find these pictures rub it in all the more and are just generally a kick in the teeth all round... Am I just being a jealous fool? Should I just get over it? Is she in the wrong at all? How should I handle this...tell her? ask her? etc etc I'm not sure and I dont want to rock the boat before I go...I just want some outside advice as its getting me down a bit. Thanks very much, sorry for yet another 'the ex' type post! : )
ArdeaCandidissima Posted October 16, 2003 Posted October 16, 2003 Well, there are other "photo of ex" threads here at Loveshack. All agree...the ex photo collection should be kept strictly private. You're right, if she has a photo of herself embracing the ex's right next to her BED she is definitely not over them. I would suggest calmly asking her if she could keep those photos private - say, in a drawer. Her reaction may tell you a lot. If you want to probe further, you may even ask what it means to her to have those photos displayed there. A male in the hand (you) SHOULD be worth more than two photos on the nightstand. Now's your chance to find out.
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