Do you feel confident with your mate when around very attractive people?

[Island Girl]

 

 

Sorry 39388.. what makes you think I would want YOU?

I'm extremely picky..

 

I'm certainly not here to pick a bone -- and it seems you and 39388 have a mutual non attraction going on.

 

But, while you may be picky, you only have access to a certain group of men.

 

The men that will look at you and talk with you, etc. are the ones that are pretty much open to anybody who'll have them.

 

I could have any of those guys too.

 

But, unlike you, I wouldn't touch any of them with a ten foot pole.

 

I hope you don't take offense to that.

I don't think you will.

After all you have no problem talking about your sexual escapades, lack of traditional standards as far as morals go, and your revolving door in your bedroom.

 

So by all means keep being selective.

You never know where their junk has been.

In your position you have to be.

Well, you know that.

[Island Girl]

I'm not insecure even with young, hotter chicks around my men...

 

Pardon me again Lizzie60

 

But they aren't really ever your men are they?

 

Didn't you say they are all married to other women? So if anyone could bat about that terminology it would be their wives (although still not true because they are sharing those guys...).

 

I suppose you just use those terms as pet names or is it a Freudian slip for what you are wishfully thinking all the time?

 

I wonder.

 

But in any event - I agree with TBF it is all pretty sad.

[Lizzie60]

 

I'm certainly not here to pick a bone -- and it seems you and 39388 have a mutual non attraction going on.

 

But, while you may be picky, you only have access to a certain group of men.

 

The men that will look at you and talk with you, etc. are the ones that are pretty much open to anybody who'll have them.

 

I could have any of those guys too.

 

But, unlike you, I wouldn't touch any of them with a ten foot pole.

 

I hope you don't take offense to that.

I don't think you will.

After all you have no problem talking about your sexual escapades, lack of traditional standards as far as morals go, and your revolving door in your bedroom.

 

So by all means keep being selective.

You never know where their junk has been.

In your position you have to be.

Well, you know that.

 

 

Well you know.. you can continue to believe that your man is perfect.. that he will never ever ever cheat on you.. that he's not even looking or having sexual thoughts about other women.. it's fine.. you can also continue to think that the only men I have contact with are my MMs..

 

Like I don't have a social life, a work life.. no problemo...

 

I will still get some sleep..

[Island Girl]

Well you know.. you can continue to believe that your man is perfect..

 

-- yes I will because he IS. But perfect for ME.

I would never say he is perfect for anyone else. A lot of our relationship has to do with how we are separately and then how we are with each other.

 

I don't expect you to understand.

 

It's like giving someone a book when, not only can they not read, they do not even accept that reading exists and that other people can do it.

 

that he will never ever ever cheat on you..

 

Yes, I will continue to believe, and he continues to prove it as well. It is simply amazing how much we love each other and how strong we have had to be and how hard we have fought to stay together through adversity.

 

Life isn't always a cake walk though. And it is SOOO worth it.

 

That is why it is so sad that you have no idea what it feels like or what it is.

 

that he's not even looking or having sexual thoughts about other women..

 

He has enough going on without having to be reminded of me even more. And that is all other women do is remind him that they are not moi.

 

Oh I encourage thoughts! I mean he is ALIVE after all.

Too bad for me I guess that he has a one track mind and that track has my name all over it! LOL

 

I do not expect you to understand it.

 

it's fine..

 

Did someone give you the idea that I needed your stamp of approval for something...?

 

Sorry they're messing with you.

 

you can also continue to think that the only men I have contact with are my MMs..

 

I don't think those are the only ones. But I did assume that since you are involved with so many at a time that even the single ones wouldn't be exclusive relationships.

 

Like I don't have a social life, a work life.. no problemo...

 

I will still get some sleep..

 

Oh I have no question that you get sleep.

 

Cat naps just have to be fabulous right?

[Trialbyfire]

But in any event - I agree with TBF it is all pretty sad.

In order to understand what it's like to have love, respect, trust and commitment from a decent man, you have to have not only experienced it but have reciprocated it.

[carhill]

Reciprocation is a good word

 

Hello from the banks of the mighty Mississippi, just across from Memphis, home of one fine man, Elvis Presley ....

[Island Girl]

In order to understand what it's like to have love, respect, trust and commitment from a decent man, you have to have not only experienced it but have reciprocated it.

 

Yes, you do have a point.

[Trialbyfire]

Reciprocation is key. And maybe that's the issue. Judging other people by self. A form of projection.

 

"I do not believe in monogamy" is projected to "all men will cheat". Another form of this is "I cannot love anyone else but myself" is projected to "no one can love anyone else".

 

Perhaps those of us who are capable of giving love, trust, respect, and commitment; receive love, trust, respect and commitment. While not every single one of our relationships end up this way, the ones with the right person become viably so, for the long-term.

[Tony]

I have not discovered anymore to be gained by leaving this thread open. There were cat fights, petty bickering, etc. ) some of which has been deleted. Often, threads go way off topic after the 10th or so post....some don't even make it that far. This one has woven back and forth.

 

I hope those who leave these parts to go to other fertile grounds will choose to get along with each other and to report those who attempt to engage others with incivility rather than participate.

 

Many thanks!