enchanted771 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 :DI ask this because in all of my relationships we overdo it in the beginning instead of easing into it. Whether it be texting, iming, emailing or whatever. The first 2-3 weeks we are talking non-stop like overkill. Then it slowly, decreases. (How long can you keep that up???) like basically, we would text from anywhere between 10 am-12 noon until about 4:30 pm, then from 8 pm-12 am. So, it seems a bit extreme. So, last week we talked and basically we are not going to sleep with other people. I had to make sure before I invested anything else in him. I probably text a little too much that night too, because after I asked him what he was looking for, and told him I am not sleeping around i guess we didnt feel the need to text morning till night. So, now we will talk at nightime. It seems okay, because his interest is definitely still high. Just wanted to see if anyone else experienced this. I dont want to appear clingy (which is where I was headed) because that will just scare him off. Just trying to ease into the relationship which by the way is fairly new- 3 months.
KeastoGirl Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I know this dance. It's tough to find balance in the beginning, because of the whole novelty and being pursued thing. I am basically linked 24-7 and I stupidly found yet another way to add connection, and that is leaving the phone on after we go to bed so we can hear each other sleep or on the chance we must talk in the middle of the night. It's like being there, and sleeping together without sleeping together We tried so hard to set ground rules about seeing each other. We live and work literally within a few miles of each other. But we never stuck to them, until, well I got tired of it. I was losing sleep, falling behind at work, and it was getting on my nerves. And that inevitably leads to the other one feeling slighted. Like, why did you stop dancing? Is there someone else? Because all that communication makes you feel like you really know the other person and they belong to you. So the best treatment is prevention. Start a relationship without giving up the life you used to have beforehand. Give yourself something else to do if that will keep you from being constantly in touch.
Curious-One Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I know this dance. It's tough to find balance in the beginning, because of the whole novelty and being pursued thing. I am basically linked 24-7 and I stupidly found yet another way to add connection, and that is leaving the phone on after we go to bed so we can hear each other sleep or on the chance we must talk in the middle of the night. It's like being there, and sleeping together without sleeping together We tried so hard to set ground rules about seeing each other. We live and work literally within a few miles of each other. But we never stuck to them, until, well I got tired of it. I was losing sleep, falling behind at work, and it was getting on my nerves. And that inevitably leads to the other one feeling slighted. Like, why did you stop dancing? Is there someone else? Because all that communication makes you feel like you really know the other person and they belong to you. So the best treatment is prevention. Start a relationship without giving up the life you used to have beforehand. Give yourself something else to do if that will keep you from being constantly in touch. Are you freaking serious??? You were on the phone while sleeping..That is CRAZYYYY imo.
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