fofiffs Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Well my ex has been trying to call me tonight, about 4 times. Well this time I didn't pick up cuz she never has anything ever good to say. I've broken NC several time but this time I actually held my ground by ignoring the phone calls. I actually feel really good about myself. It was hard but I was strong enough to not pick up. Just thought I'd rant a little.
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Good on you for being able to ignore the calls. I'm still checking my phone constantly, and at this moment, if my ex called, I think I'd answer it. That's how pathetic I am. So good on you for resisting. Pat yourself on the back and know just how strong you must seem to her. She's with that other guy now, right? She must not be too happy with him if she's still calling you!
Author fofiffs Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Good on you for being able to ignore the calls. I'm still checking my phone constantly, and at this moment, if my ex called, I think I'd answer it. That's how pathetic I am. So good on you for resisting. Pat yourself on the back and know just how strong you must seem to her. She's with that other guy now, right? She must not be too happy with him if she's still calling you! Yeah I was being pathetic to when my ex first broke up with me about 7 weeks ago. I was constantly checking my phone, email, etc. But after a while it really does get old. I got tired of hurting myself like that. I've broken NC several times but this time I'm sticking to my guns. She never had anything goodto say anyway. She was just constantly trying to make me jealous and hurt me. I'm just tired of going through that. No mater how bad it hurts right now I feel good inside knowing i'm trying to be strong for myself.
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 but this time I'm sticking to my guns. See, what's funny about that is where you say you're "sticking to your guns." And you're in camo... which makes me think you're in the military... which makes me think you actually have guns to stick to... which makes me want to borrow one... (...not really...)
Author fofiffs Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 See, what's funny about that is where you say you're "sticking to your guns." And you're in camo... which makes me think you're in the military... which makes me think you actually have guns to stick to... which makes me want to borrow one... (...not really...) lol.yeah when your in the military the only best friend you'll ever have is your gun. She'll never cheat on you, always be there for you, be there for you when your in need, basically the perfect GF..
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Yeah, but I guess with a gun you have to be even MORE careful in bed than with a girl... That could be some seriously unsafe sex...
Bluebird In My Heart Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Hey, you're doing a great. I just wanted to point out something I will always be grateful was written to me on these very same boards once - and that is, it is good that you are feeling fine right now and everything - but keep in mind that you will really go through it once they stop calling you. Just as they predicted, I didn't realize the enormity of it all until the other person finally gave up. That was when I went through the largest amount of hurt. I will forever be grateful to LS for that. I never had a breakup where the ending of it was so painful - so this was actually new territory for me. I never really learned how to let go let quite like that before, so I didn't have the skills, or even know that what I was feeling was normal, it was fine, and that I was going to be okay. Now, I know I can walk away from anything that's bad for me... Stay strong. You can do this.
Author fofiffs Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Yeah, but I guess with a gun you have to be even MORE careful in bed than with a girl... That could be some seriously unsafe sex... LOL..See thats the only complicated part about having a gun as a GF..
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I agree with Bluebird that if/when the phone stops ringing, that will bring its own sadness - but for TONIGHT - you didn't answer her calls!!!! Yay!!! You'd thought about why she'd probably be calling, what she'd probably say, how it would make you feel, and you decided in advance not to answer the calls, and then you followed through!! Awesome!!!!!! So - for TONIGHT - Yay!! Celebrate!!!! (Just be careful if you celebrate with your gunfriend!!)
Author fofiffs Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 I agree with Bluebird that if/when the phone stops ringing, that will bring its own sadness - but for TONIGHT - you didn't answer her calls!!!! Yay!!! You'd thought about why she'd probably be calling, what she'd probably say, how it would make you feel, and you decided in advance not to answer the calls, and then you followed through!! Awesome!!!!!! So - for TONIGHT - Yay!! Celebrate!!!! (Just be careful if you celebrate with your gunfriend!!) To be honest she really hurt me so much when she left me. She had nothing but cruel things to say to me. I did so much for that girl. I took care of her and her baby. I took care of her baby for almost two years and treated the baby as if she was mine. Then once she got back up on her feet she left me for someone 12 years older than her who has more money, nice care and a bigger house. I felt so used in the end On easter she called me to say that she was at her new bf's parents house. How cruel can you be to do such a thing. She also tells me that she'll take me as a friend. So now I really have no desire to hear from her at all or never. Cuz I know it will always be something really hurtful. I was really proud of myself to finally not answer that call. From the beginning of the break up, I was always stupid enough to answer hoping that she'd want to get back together. Another thing that really kills me is I know she has already slept with him. It really does hurt but now in a way I don't want to be with her knowing she has been with another man already. Just the thought of her sleeping with someone else really makes me not want her anymore.
DJMarky Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 To be honest she really hurt me so much when she left me. She had nothing but cruel things to say to me. I did so much for that girl. I took care of her and her baby. I took care of her baby for almost two years and treated the baby as if she was mine. Then once she got back up on her feet she left me for someone 12 years older than her who has more money, nice care and a bigger house. I felt so used in the end On easter she called me to say that she was at her new bf's parents house. How cruel can you be to do such a thing. She also tells me that she'll take me as a friend. So now I really have no desire to hear from her at all or never. Cuz I know it will always be something really hurtful. I was really proud of myself to finally not answer that call. From the beginning of the break up, I was always stupid enough to answer hoping that she'd want to get back together. Another thing that really kills me is I know she has already slept with him. It really does hurt but now in a way I don't want to be with her knowing she has been with another man already. Just the thought of her sleeping with someone else really makes me not want her anymore. Dude your ex sounds so similar to mine. I ignored her calls from the advice here on LS, then when she called using a private number it was to tell me about her lunch with the other guy, what he had bought her, if I was hurting, did I still love her etc etc. I was like umm wtf, after that convo I then ignored all her calls and was going to answer private numbers but if it was her pretend I was busy, but she never tried that trick again. She then went to smsing me, emailing saying she missed me, wanted me back, other guy meant nothing, she hadn't ****ed him etc. I ignore, pisses her off even more so she then lets me know how she has ****ed this guy, I am nothing etc etc. Anyways, best thing to do is go NC, ignore EVERYTHING. Get it in your head you won't/can't forgive this girl and it is completely over, nothing she says will get you back, then ignore. Trust me, I wish I could have got all the advice I got on here a few weeks earlier, then I would have really ****ed her over, instead of answering her calls and putting up with her slutty ways.
Author fofiffs Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Today she calls me three times but I didn't pick up. She leaves a message and tried to sound all nice to me. She says that I can come and see her baby that I treated like mine throughout our relationship. I've been asking her for so long to see the baby after we broke up but she never wanted me to. So I don't know why only now she decides she wants me to see the baby. But you know what she hurt me so bad and as much as it hurts to not see the baby I'm sticking to NC. I'm tired of all the crap she put me through.
Da Supastar BL Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 That's good. I'm sure she wants your attention now that your ignoring her. It's always like that. My ex moved on to someone new last month without even telling me and till this day still has yet to admit to me about his new chick. You don't know how many times I asked him and he had so many chances to tell me the truth and he always ended up dodging the question when I've already came to accept it. So I have no respect for him at the moment. I started ignoring him after that and then he started talking to me and hitting me up every so often like everything was all cool. So I told him straight up to stop contacting me. That was almost 2 weeks ago and I'm glad he listened cuz it was just setting me back everytime I heard from him. So stick to NC.
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