Cosmo87 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 So i met this guy two weeks ago. Things seemed great we hit it off! I thought he would have made a move the night of our first date but he didn't. Throughout the past two weeks he was calling me all of the time and acted very interested in me and everything going on in my life, which i thought was a great sign. We saw each other once mid-week for a short time before he went to work, and once again he made no move and didn't even try to touch me! I figured "oh wow I have a nice respectful guy on my hands". On friday night (its now monday) we saw each other for about an hour, yet the whole time it almost seemed like he was nervous! While we were with each other he took my hand was holding it, was twirling my hair, and kept rubbing my chin. I figured okay he's getting ready to make a move, but nope he didnt. When he dropped me off he gave me a half lip-half cheek kiss, figruing it might have been his nerves i leaned in again and pecked him on the lips and said goodnight. On saturday I text messaged him to say hello and he answered..and that is the last that I have spoken to him, he has not called or textd me..something that did stick out to me was that he said his ex-girlfriend(went out 2.5years) whom he was dumped by 5 months was leaving for 6 months for a job and that she wanted him to wait for her when she came back, apparenlty he told her he wasn't going to... For some odd reason, I feel like the reason why he was acting the way he was, was because he might not be over his ex and actaully is waiting for her to come back, i mean i have NEVER met a guy who hasn't made a move on me after 3 TIMES being alone...maybe it could be that he lost interest, but i can't see why he would be intiating any physical contact like caressing my face and hands, normally you would avoid that..so any thoughts?
oasis Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I would simply disappear as the above poster indicated. If he is interested, he still has your number and will call you. I am totally against chasing someone who is acting wishy-washy in a budding relationship. This may be personal, but I get pretty p*ssed off, when someone is acting that way towards me. So I in turn, totally goes cold on them. I find by doing so, it balances out the relationship.
Awesome84 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 For some odd reason, I feel like the reason why he was acting the way he was, was because he might not be over his ex BINGO!!! The fact that he mentioned it to you at all tells me that he isn't over her. Especially if you two weren't even talking about that and he just mentioned it out of the blue. He's emotionally unavailable. So I think you should step back from him for awhile and if he calls... he calls. If he doesn't... then there is your answer right there. Don't text or call him because then... you won't really know if he kind of likes you or not and is just trying to get over his ex. Let him deal with it alone. Men need space to figure things out sometimes. If he does end up calling you again... just be cool.
Author Cosmo87 Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 BINGO!!! The fact that he mentioned it to you at all tells me that he isn't over her. Especially if you two weren't even talking about that and he just mentioned it out of the blue. He's emotionally unavailable. So I think you should step back from him for awhile and if he calls... he calls. If he doesn't... then there is your answer right there. Don't text or call him because then... you won't really know if he kind of likes you or not and is just trying to get over his ex. Let him deal with it alone. Men need space to figure things out sometimes. If he does end up calling you again... just be cool. I just wish i knew if it was because of loss of interest or what..many of my male friends said he obviously felt something, or else he would never have initated the hold handing and such..but maybe that vibe i was getting from him trying to fight off the thoughts of his ex or something?
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