monkey00 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I'm in my mid-20's and I find on random days there are things with my life I'm not satisfied with. I need to more meaning/inner meaning to my life. When I was younger, especially in college I was always ambitious and motivated. I accomplished all my goals one by one and am where I want to be. I have been at my job for almost 2 years, and there is no longer a challenge - just my comfort zone and job redundancy. I know I shouldn't be complaining as there are others who are dying now to find work to pay bills. The thing I do like about my job is that it pays well, it finances my lifestyle, pays the bills, and I like the people that I work with. I need a new challenge in my life, but it seems I've yet to discover it as I don't have much interest in other job fields. My roommate is almost 30 and he's able to stay motivated all the time or go out and party, dancing, drinking and feel no repercussions from it at all. I hang out with him from time to time and do those things, but all those things I find bring no meaning to my life. That scene is already old and I'm growing tired of it. I wonder though if I had a girlfriend if I would be feeling this way. Maybe if I did have a SO, I would have more purpose and find more meaning in the day to day activities of my life. But then again I question if I would truly be happy with a gf, if I'm not that happy with my life right now when I'm single. All my friends and family are here in the city. I've contemplated the thought of starting a new life and getting as far away from here as possible. But I also know I'd be leaving my old life behind...and will face the challenges of starting new relationships with people. I've also thought about starting a business like a cafe or a bar - but all ideas for the future. And at the end if I did all of that, would it truly bring me (inner) happiness? Maybe I should just talk to a therapist or a shrink about this. Any thoughts/advice is much appreciated.
Meaplus3 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I'm in my mid-20's and I find on random days there are things with my life I'm not satisfied with. I need to more meaning/inner meaning to my life. I think your a little on the young side to be going through a mid life crisis. Your most likely trying to find your path in life. Sort of like your at a crossroad and which way do you go? I need a new challenge in my life, but it seems I've yet to discover it as I don't have much interest in other job fields. Then simply find one. Find something that your real pasionate about. Wether it be a hobby or a job that you can really sink your heart and soul into. Challenge is good. It will keep you on your toes. I wonder though if I had a girlfriend if I would be feeling this way. Maybe if I did have a SO, I would have more purpose and find more meaning in the day to day activities of my life. But then again I question if I would truly be happy with a gf, if I'm not that happy with my life right now when I'm single. While it's always nice to have a special someone, a better feeling can come from beign content from the inside of your own self. No one person should complete you. You need to be complete first. Maybe I should just talk to a therapist or a shrink about this. Therapy can be very soothing and helpful. Best of luck to you. Mea:)
Bluebird In My Heart Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 You are going through the classic quarter-life crisis. It isn't really new. Seriously, Google it.
Author monkey00 Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 I think your a little on the young side to be going through a mid life crisis. Your most likely trying to find your path in life. Sort of like your at a crossroad and which way do you go? I guess I am at a bit of crossroads. I'm not miserable with my life or my job. I suppose I'm just looking for more meaning to life, or my life in this case. I've temped at companies where I've worked with and overheard about X employee (a middle aged person) being miserable with their jobs and eventually quitting to find their calling in life..even if it sounds immature. The funny thing is that during college up until now, I thought I had everything figured out. And it seemed that way for a long time. Now I may have hit rock bottom because my life seems redundant at times - even with a social life. I don't know how I compare to other people. But I tend to get bored of things easily, especially if I excel at it. Then simply find one. Find something that your real pasionate about. Wether it be a hobby or a job that you can really sink your heart and soul into. Challenge is good. It will keep you on your toes. Challenge is good. And passion is even better. I haven't felt passion to do something in quite awhile. I think personally this is a challenge to begin with because I don't have a lot of interests. Well I do, but those I already excel at. While it's always nice to have a special someone, a better feeling can come from beign content from the inside of your own self. No one person should complete you. You need to be complete first. Yep I've heard that dozens of times and often tell people that. Though at times I wonder whether I'm fully complete.
someg Posted April 18, 2009 Posted April 18, 2009 I'm in my mid-20's and I find on random days there are things with my life I'm not satisfied with. I need to more meaning/inner meaning to my life. When I was younger, especially in college I was always ambitious and motivated. I accomplished all my goals one by one and am where I want to be. I have been at my job for almost 2 years, and there is no longer a challenge - just my comfort zone and job redundancy. I know I shouldn't be complaining as there are others who are dying now to find work to pay bills. The thing I do like about my job is that it pays well, it finances my lifestyle, pays the bills, and I like the people that I work with. I need a new challenge in my life, but it seems I've yet to discover it as I don't have much interest in other job fields. My roommate is almost 30 and he's able to stay motivated all the time or go out and party, dancing, drinking and feel no repercussions from it at all. I hang out with him from time to time and do those things, but all those things I find bring no meaning to my life. That scene is already old and I'm growing tired of it. I wonder though if I had a girlfriend if I would be feeling this way. Maybe if I did have a SO, I would have more purpose and find more meaning in the day to day activities of my life. But then again I question if I would truly be happy with a gf, if I'm not that happy with my life right now when I'm single. All my friends and family are here in the city. I've contemplated the thought of starting a new life and getting as far away from here as possible. But I also know I'd be leaving my old life behind...and will face the challenges of starting new relationships with people. I've also thought about starting a business like a cafe or a bar - but all ideas for the future. And at the end if I did all of that, would it truly bring me (inner) happiness? Maybe I should just talk to a therapist or a shrink about this. Any thoughts/advice is much appreciated. Just giving you some of my thoughts. I am around your age and know how it feels to be in a quarter-life crisis. You say you want a challenge in life and want to find meaning. What do you feel that is lacking in your life? You are not happy with you job. You have been there for two years, maybe you can try to apply for another job somewhere else you are interested in that can challenge you. Maybe you can go back to school to challenge yourself. You say you don't have a gf. Have you tried actively looking for one and tried to have a relationship? Maybe give it a try. You find little meaning from partying with your roommate. Maybe you don't feel connected with people who you party with? Maybe try volunteering for a non profit to meet new people. Maybe try joining a social club. Check out meetup.com As for a therapist, they are definitely helpful. They can do a lot more than what we can do on a forum answering to a post.
georgejungle Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 i think some people just need to soul search....but i wouldn't call your situation a "mid-life crisis". It's more that you are searching for something, you don't know what... so if i were you, i'd go out there in the world and find some challenges. Only YOU will know what can make you happy. I know at this point, if i were you, i wouldn't look for happiness in a relationship with someone. If you're unsure about things in your life, don't waste anyone's time, if you get my point... i mean that with respect, i've been where you're at.
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