le_caz Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 my ex who dumped me found out i was out drinking with a few people from the town she lives in , two of the people with me were women. when she hears this she texts me a nasty message saying which one of the girls did you shag? or do you remember her name? i said none of them! and she replied with why do you usually wait untill the second date? or do you have to live with them, (this is in reference to a roommate of mine i was seeing long after i was with her) i asked her why was she being like this and she said she was only joking. Before this we were getting on great there is no hard feelings on my part and we were trying to be friends why is she being like this has she feelings for me? i still sort of have feelings for her and i certainly care for her as a friend so i hope we dont fall out.
BCCA Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 She doesnt want you to be over her before she has someone else. She's just being selfish, she probably didnt have anything to do, and when she heard you were out and about with other women, it pissed her off. That is, until you responded right back to her texts and re-assured her that you are still pining for her, and would never dream of *gasp* sleeping with other women. Dude, do you not see how whooped she still has you? Even after dumping you, she can send a NASTY text while youre out with friends, and still get a quick response, telling her exactly what she wanted to hear. Furthermore, you also tolerated her treating you like crap, saying rude things, and then saying 'just kidding' and walking away. I don't mean to beat you up, but I just had to give a good friend a serious pep talk about the same thing. Shes your EX, shes not your friend, trust me. Friends have each other's best interests in mind, and are there for one another, through good times and bad. They dont send you rude texts about what your doing, or dump you and hurt your feelings. You want to be 'friends' with her, because you think that's going to keep you in her life long enough for her to 'see the errors of her ways', but it doesnt work like that. Shes getting what she wants from you, you're getting nothing. Zip. Zilch. Nada. By allowing this to continue, her respect and value of you are plummeting. You simply HAVE to stop responding to texts/calls/emails/etc. Cut her off for good, and don't waiver. If she is EVER going to change her mind, which is not very likely to be honest, you'v got to give her a chance to miss you. You're letting her quit you slowly, all the while, you can believe she's looking for replacements. No contact. You have to do it. You CAN do it. End this madness now.
Author le_caz Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 your right bud! great post i agree one hundred per cent! the menopausal bitch isnt getting any attention of me anymore!
BCCA Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 your right bud! great post i agree one hundred per cent! the menopausal bitch isnt getting any attention of me anymore! Great man, you can do it!
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