Double D Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Hiya People! I started a course in September (Im 31) and started getting friendly with a woman whose on my course (she's 27), so we r both adults. After about 2 months I told her I be interested in getting to know her better as I like her, she said she thinks we should b friends for the moment. (what does that mean) So to try and woo her I did little gestures just so she knows I like her more than a friend. So in the new year we went on a date. I picked her up at her house and met her parents (is that a big deal) It went well and she said she enjoyed herself. I eventually asked her how she feels about me. Just too see if im wasting my time. She said she's not sure as she doesnt know me that well but said she would knew if she wasnt interested, which she hasnt said. After taking a step back for a few months to see if she would take a step forward. I texted her less and called her less, since I usually was the one who nearly always intiatied texts and calls. She responded by starting texting and calling me more. Cool! I thought. So in the space of 4 months we are slowly getting to know each other have met up a couple of times and im conscious of being put into that friendzone, so I keep doing stuff, so she at least knows I think of her more than just a friend. Right, so we had a talk and she said that we go out when we can, as we both work odd shifts, so getting together can be tricky. She said that she has other stuff in her life more important than a relationship that she needs to sort of (which is geniunely true) I told her I'm not asking to be her boyfriend or stuff as we are still relative strangers just want to know if u like me or if im wasting my time trying to pursue you if theirs nothing their on her part. She said I'm just not sure as I dont know u that well but again said if she wasnt interested in me like that she would let me know. So just to gather your thoughts and opinions. Thanks for reading.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I would start looking for other women. Uncertainties are too little to hold your breath for. 4 months and you're uncertain? Pfft.......... NEXT!
Davey McG Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 If she was interested she would have acted on it by now. She's not, but wants you as a friend and won't definitely say "no" to dating you because she's afraid you won't want to be her friend if she says no. The only time she needs for herself is to weigh up the other options. If you were priority, she would have said yes already. Start dating others
Author Double D Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Thanks people for the response. I think I will start looking at dating other women and take it from there and then also will give her that space that she needs.
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